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Detachment or flat out mean?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 506601" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm sorry for your dilemma, it's a tough call. Everyone's post makes sense, it appears there is no real right or wrong, just that huge gray area where we must make a choice that impacts someone else's life. Yikes. I have no advice, however, I have one thought that helps me when I am in doubt as to whether to help or not. I heard this from a therapist in one of my groups when someone asked how we could tell whether we are being codependent or doing something out of loving kindness. She said, "when you do something out of loving kindness you feel good, when you do something out of codependency, you feel bad." That may not pertain to your situation, or perhaps it might, but it does assist me when I am stuck. I hope you find peace in your decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 506601, member: 13542"] I'm sorry for your dilemma, it's a tough call. Everyone's post makes sense, it appears there is no real right or wrong, just that huge gray area where we must make a choice that impacts someone else's life. Yikes. I have no advice, however, I have one thought that helps me when I am in doubt as to whether to help or not. I heard this from a therapist in one of my groups when someone asked how we could tell whether we are being codependent or doing something out of loving kindness. She said, "when you do something out of loving kindness you feel good, when you do something out of codependency, you feel bad." That may not pertain to your situation, or perhaps it might, but it does assist me when I am stuck. I hope you find peace in your decision. [/QUOTE]
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