Hang in there, TL. When I'm dealing with difficult child, two of the questions to myself are these:
1. Am I more upset about his situation than he is?
2. Am I trying to do more for him than he is trying to do for himself?
Used to be, the answer to those questions was always Yes. Now, not so more. That is progress for me.
So glad you decided not to go to Court. You can usually find out what happens by calling the court office. It's public record.
I learned that the last go-around.
Big hugs for you TL. We're here with you.
