My daughter, who used HEAVY drugs from age 12 (yes 12) to 18) gave me this advice for anyone dealing with a drug abuser: "Never trust them. They will stare at you with tears in their eyes and lie." I asked her if she did that and had done this and she said, "Of course."
Your drug abusing kids would probably be different people if they quit the drugs, although not all drug abusers have that as their soul personality problem, but as long as they are using drugs...never trust them.
On the other hand, there ARE some super-clueless professionals who DO say things like that. My daughter saw a therapist who told her that we should trust her more and the way she hounded us about that, I believe she really told that to my daughter who used drugs, lied, stole and was very lucky not to go to jail for a robbery in which she was sitting in the car while it took place and she knew it was happening.
I finally told her, "I don't think that was good advice, therapist or not. You have to earn trust."
She never said that to me again, but gave me a look like "A******e."
Some of these professionals who never went through this know nothing except what they learn from books and books are not real life.
