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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 754169" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Unfortunately or fortunately (depending on who you are in this) it is in no way socially unacceptable to have a child out of wedlock. Millennials have the lowest marriage rate since this statistic was recorded. Having babies is down too but many still do.</p><p></p><p>I remember the first time Amy told me that somebody at school was pregnant and that her mother and grand parents were throwing her a baby shower. This girl was 15 and from two very successful parents who loved her. So that was Amy's first baby shower and there were many more. There was town chatter but no condemnation in the neighborhood and her peers we're excited.</p><p></p><p>This girl had her baby and went to college later on and her parents raised the child. The girls life wasn't ruined. Neither were the other girls Amy went to school with who had babies. We tried to tell Amy we would not raise her child if she had one before she was ready and she said with a smile that she isn't dumb enough to do that but also said "Guys, if I was that dumb and had a baby you might not throw me a shower but you are both too kind not to care for the baby. So don't lie. But don't worry. I want to finish college first and get married."</p><p></p><p>Amy was right. </p><p></p><p>And true to her word she did wait. But it wasn't because she thought having a baby was a stigma or would ruin her life.</p><p></p><p>The world has changed. The stigma is gone.</p><p></p><p>Now NOT all parents will or can care for grandbabies, but many do. For those who really do have a hard time, I feel very badly for Mom and Child. It still is hard to do it alone. I wish there were still a stigma that would make young mom's think twice.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 754169, member: 23706"] Unfortunately or fortunately (depending on who you are in this) it is in no way socially unacceptable to have a child out of wedlock. Millennials have the lowest marriage rate since this statistic was recorded. Having babies is down too but many still do. I remember the first time Amy told me that somebody at school was pregnant and that her mother and grand parents were throwing her a baby shower. This girl was 15 and from two very successful parents who loved her. So that was Amy's first baby shower and there were many more. There was town chatter but no condemnation in the neighborhood and her peers we're excited. This girl had her baby and went to college later on and her parents raised the child. The girls life wasn't ruined. Neither were the other girls Amy went to school with who had babies. We tried to tell Amy we would not raise her child if she had one before she was ready and she said with a smile that she isn't dumb enough to do that but also said "Guys, if I was that dumb and had a baby you might not throw me a shower but you are both too kind not to care for the baby. So don't lie. But don't worry. I want to finish college first and get married." Amy was right. And true to her word she did wait. But it wasn't because she thought having a baby was a stigma or would ruin her life. The world has changed. The stigma is gone. Now NOT all parents will or can care for grandbabies, but many do. For those who really do have a hard time, I feel very badly for Mom and Child. It still is hard to do it alone. I wish there were still a stigma that would make young mom's think twice. Wishing you the best. [/QUOTE]
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