few of us in life get to have our cake and eat it too. right now your dgd wants that. she wants to live a druggie life while having no consequences. she does not want the system to know who and what she is and does so that she can keep her child in limbo while she ignores and traumatizes him. when he sobs looking for and crying for her, this is trauma and the basis of an attachment disorder down the road. your dgd is choosing that her innocent baby pays the price, not her.
I know this is the influence of the drugs, to a large extent, but, people do decide to go to treatment and they do recover. look at Robert downey jr. i am so in awe of him. she could do this too. so really, it is not the drugs. she has not yet decided. the ball is in her court. but really, what others are saying on your thread is this: the ball is in your court. all of our hearts are breaking with you.
you know you won't care for him permanently. i know you have a broken heart. but each day that goes by it will be harder for the baby to adjust to new circumstances when this jig is up. i fear for the baby.
