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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 558703" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>This is his first charge as an adult so he most likely will just get restitution and probation. I definitely don't have $10,000 just laying around so bail is not an option. I know he would run. By doing things this way HE has to face the consequences and HE has to figure out a solution. He will need to figure out where he's going to go after he's released. He will lose his bed at the group home come Monday. He lives here in NJ but the charges are in PA so I don't know how that works either for probation etc. </p><p></p><p>As for visiting - the jail is over 3.5 hours away from us so it's unlikely we will be visiting. He can call and write though and maybe this whole situation will help everything we've been trying to tell him for years finally sink in! </p><p></p><p>I'm going to call the jail today and I will most likely set up a phone account for him so he can call us. I refuse to condone his behavior but he's our son and we do love him and he can call as long as he's not going to harass us. I read online that its $1.25 for 20 min so I will start with $10 in the account for him and go from there. I'm not opening a commissary acct tho because he'll spend the money on junk food and not necessities. This is JAIL after all! No need for Twinkies and Cheetos etc!</p><p></p><p>And then after I do all of that today I'm going to write him a letter so he knows that he has people in the world who love him and are there for moral support but that HE has to change if he ever wants things to get better. </p><p></p><p>My heart is still so heavy and I woke up feeling like my life must be one big nightmare but its not. So here I go again into another day!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 558703, member: 12470"] This is his first charge as an adult so he most likely will just get restitution and probation. I definitely don't have $10,000 just laying around so bail is not an option. I know he would run. By doing things this way HE has to face the consequences and HE has to figure out a solution. He will need to figure out where he's going to go after he's released. He will lose his bed at the group home come Monday. He lives here in NJ but the charges are in PA so I don't know how that works either for probation etc. As for visiting - the jail is over 3.5 hours away from us so it's unlikely we will be visiting. He can call and write though and maybe this whole situation will help everything we've been trying to tell him for years finally sink in! I'm going to call the jail today and I will most likely set up a phone account for him so he can call us. I refuse to condone his behavior but he's our son and we do love him and he can call as long as he's not going to harass us. I read online that its $1.25 for 20 min so I will start with $10 in the account for him and go from there. I'm not opening a commissary acct tho because he'll spend the money on junk food and not necessities. This is JAIL after all! No need for Twinkies and Cheetos etc! And then after I do all of that today I'm going to write him a letter so he knows that he has people in the world who love him and are there for moral support but that HE has to change if he ever wants things to get better. My heart is still so heavy and I woke up feeling like my life must be one big nightmare but its not. So here I go again into another day! [/QUOTE]
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