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Did I give birth to an unicorn? Or three easy steps to become a guru
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 665082" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I came back on to post that I realized I was feeling badly because, each time we uncover another layer, we experience some version of Serenity's phrase <em>emotional flashback.</em> I just felt badly, and kept trying to reason my way out of it, but couldn't. Just kept getting in deeper and deeper. That is emotional flashback. Self care for us when this happens, when we recognize it is happening, would be to review the sites one or another of us has referenced a link to here on FOO Chronicles.</p><p></p><p>Anne Lamott; the article on sociopathy and gaslighting ~ especially the gaslighting aspect; Singing the Bones, with its caution about patience and intent. There are others, but these three helped me this morning. </p><p></p><p>That is what happens to us when we uncover another layer, even when the memories are not traumatic. Serenity, you may benefit from reviewing some of those sites too, now that your sister is pushing against your decision to declare an ending to her stalking and mistreatment of you.</p><p></p><p>I am back steady state from having read Anne and just the title of the article on sociopaths and gaslighting. I was like, "Oh! Of course! I am in emotional flashback. That is why I feel so unfocused, this morning."</p><p></p><p>Copa, I will go back and read your post, now.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 665082, member: 17461"] I came back on to post that I realized I was feeling badly because, each time we uncover another layer, we experience some version of Serenity's phrase [I]emotional flashback.[/I] I just felt badly, and kept trying to reason my way out of it, but couldn't. Just kept getting in deeper and deeper. That is emotional flashback. Self care for us when this happens, when we recognize it is happening, would be to review the sites one or another of us has referenced a link to here on FOO Chronicles. Anne Lamott; the article on sociopathy and gaslighting ~ especially the gaslighting aspect; Singing the Bones, with its caution about patience and intent. There are others, but these three helped me this morning. That is what happens to us when we uncover another layer, even when the memories are not traumatic. Serenity, you may benefit from reviewing some of those sites too, now that your sister is pushing against your decision to declare an ending to her stalking and mistreatment of you. I am back steady state from having read Anne and just the title of the article on sociopaths and gaslighting. I was like, "Oh! Of course! I am in emotional flashback. That is why I feel so unfocused, this morning." Copa, I will go back and read your post, now. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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