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It is great school is not a big issue right now. One thing I will share as a case manager for kids for years... when they are little the demands for socialization are smaller and even in strong identification areas like where I live, private doctors and schools miss the really high functioning and boarder line kinds of kids until little by little the demands increase. I would just encourage you to keep an open mind so that he does not have to suffer from self esteem issues if he is expected to do things he can't do.


In the mean time, YOU!!!! I do not like your doctor. I think to say it is all your fault (and it seems you may be buying into that???) is not fair since it is clear you are trying to do so many things. (smile)


I suspect people here have mentioned the book "the explosive child" to you before? If you have not read it, it is really good and helps with kids where traditional parenting does not work. It really is different. And for us, it has been a huge help even with my son's special needs. It is not a special needs book per se. It is for just what I said, kids who dont respond well to traditional methods of parenting.


I would also say that for kids who have "issues" that overlap with Autism, (like the on and off transition thing, and that is typical....transitions go smoother if it is their agenda, lol) there are some great idea books..... I use books from different disabilities for kids without those labels because the ideas work! if you look at some books about Asperger's syndrome.... these are smart kids who have some rigid ideas and tricky moments. There are methods there that can help many kids and my sisters use them with their sons...one has one with anxiety and one with adhd/organization issues. Lots of ideas for preparing kids for transitions and handling meltdowns. etc.... can't hurt to try since the things and guilt from the doctors is not helpful!



Keep hanging in there! I would still suggest the neuropsychologist evaluation, what can it hurt??? Doctors are not special needs diagnosticians. I have worked in this field for a LONG time and I promise you that there is intensive training and workshops and grants in special education geared at inservice and training for pediatricians and family physicians (even neuro's) because they miss early diagnosis so much of the time. Just please keep open to options, you do not deserve blame and guilt. Luv, Buddy


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