buddy,
I know, I do keep a close eye on the school with him.Yes, I am buying into its all my fault, their dad had said that and made a comment before he married his fourth that" if him and I were together he maybe wouldn't act that way". Uggh exs are full of it! Yes, I do have and am reading that Explosive Child. I'm glad these methods are helping with you and your sisters children! Gives us hope! I know about the public schools Special Education, I was Special Education! I believe they called it BIC AND BAC, I went in because I refused to go to school in the fourth grade due to the teacher constantly putting me down,embarrassing me etc. She did this to most kids throughout many years, I just couldn't handle it! Yes, that was private school1 So any who, I went to public but still have been in out all these years! I want help for my son, but public schools here "jump and label kids quickly" and some of those children should not have been! Also, in Pre-K, my son missed from bacterial infections( several) and many,many,many tardys due to tantrums in the mornings which he should of failed. They understood his issue, and passed him because he knew the material for Pre-K. In a public school, he would have repeated the grade. So far, only a few very light,non-violent tantrums before school this year! 
Anyways, thank you!
