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Did raising a difficult child completely skew your emotional reponses?
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 484530" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>I just spent an hour in therapy trying to tell my new counselor how my whole life is now skewed....but I could not articulate it to where I feel she fully understands. </p><p></p><p>Having a difficult child has changed every part of me. It has affected my career, in that I used to be this patient, level headed, store manager - and now I am triggered by absolutely everything around me in the workplace. My last 5 years of a career have been a wash, simply because I am too emotional.</p><p></p><p>I guess my problem is the opposite to yours. I have lost the patience and calmness that used to be my personality, and it has been replaced with the feeling that I am walking around constantly in a war zone. That every single thing in life is a potential land mine. It causes me to analyze every single person, thing, or action and evaluate whether or not I am going to be hurt bu it or not. It has rendered me paralyzed to move forward with the same daring tenacity I used to have.</p><p></p><p>I can't say it is all difficult child-ness, there are other significant life things that have affected this. But I think the inability to retain a level head directly has to do with always being caught up in difficult children roller coaster hell of a life. </p><p></p><p>Constantly being in the flight or flight mode for 21 years, has caused me to become permanently in that gear. I have no idea how to disengage. And the only ones that understand are you guys - because friends, family, and counselor just don't seem to grasp the gravity and severity of this.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for bringing this up slsh - I really needed to know others are out there like me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 484530, member: 3301"] I just spent an hour in therapy trying to tell my new counselor how my whole life is now skewed....but I could not articulate it to where I feel she fully understands. Having a difficult child has changed every part of me. It has affected my career, in that I used to be this patient, level headed, store manager - and now I am triggered by absolutely everything around me in the workplace. My last 5 years of a career have been a wash, simply because I am too emotional. I guess my problem is the opposite to yours. I have lost the patience and calmness that used to be my personality, and it has been replaced with the feeling that I am walking around constantly in a war zone. That every single thing in life is a potential land mine. It causes me to analyze every single person, thing, or action and evaluate whether or not I am going to be hurt bu it or not. It has rendered me paralyzed to move forward with the same daring tenacity I used to have. I can't say it is all difficult child-ness, there are other significant life things that have affected this. But I think the inability to retain a level head directly has to do with always being caught up in difficult children roller coaster hell of a life. Constantly being in the flight or flight mode for 21 years, has caused me to become permanently in that gear. I have no idea how to disengage. And the only ones that understand are you guys - because friends, family, and counselor just don't seem to grasp the gravity and severity of this. Thank you for bringing this up slsh - I really needed to know others are out there like me. [/QUOTE]
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