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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 646609" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>We finally asked him to leave last night after daughter in law revealed the he had told her he shot up heroin in our bathroom and used one of our kitchen spoons for the process.</p><p></p><p>difficult child took his kids to their classes at the park on Saturday morning and didn't return home. daughter in law's sister picked them up from the park as planned and they spent the night with her, and daughter in law spent the night with her parents. Sunday morning, daughter in law called us to tell difficult child to come and pick up the kids because the younger one was sick. I told her he hadn't been home, and she was surprised. She said he wasn't answering his phone.</p><p></p><p>Later he told her his phone was out of power and that he had gone to see a friend and fell asleep. He showed up to pick up the kids, and daughter in law's sister wouldn't let him have them because she thought he was high. He came home yesterday and went straight to his room and slept all day.</p><p></p><p>So in the evening, my daughter, husband, and daughter in law joined me in the living room to talk to difficult child. I took the lead (surprised myself) and told him that because of his ongoing drug use we were going to have to ask him to leave. I reminded him that we had mentioned this would happen, and asked him if he remembered that conversation. He nodded yes. I told him we all loved him, and it had nothing to do with that, and listed all the people who care about him. It was a matter of legality and safety, and we hated seeing him do this to himself but we couldn't have it around us or the kids.</p><p></p><p>husband asked him why he returned to heroin after he had been clean on house arrest and after the hospital. He said "I don't know." I told him he could spend the night (last night) but he needs to leave today. He said he had already planned to get an apartment on his next payday, which is Friday. I asked what he intended to do in the meantime, and he said he didn't have anywhere to stay. I said he'll need to figure something out, then. His wife had a few things to say, and she's very teary eyed about the whole matter but trying to hold it together. I asked difficult child if he had anything to say to us, and he said no.</p><p></p><p>He gave the kids their baths and put them to bed, but didn't say anything to us. He left the house this morning for work and didn't say anything. </p><p></p><p>I kept waking up last night feeling sick to my stomach about this whole thing. I read somewhere that a heroin addict needs a safe, supportive environment away from the streets to get better, and I feel like I just kicked him out into the worst environment. daughter in law said she's afraid he'll try to stay in one of the men's hotel/apartments that are super cheap but swarming with drugs and addicts. I said, "Well, he's managed to find drugs living here where there aren't any other drug addicts, so I don't think it matters." I keep visualizing him shooting up in our bathroom, and then I think I did the right thing.</p><p></p><p>He's not gone yet, but husband and I will both be home when he gets off work this evening. I've got an old suitcase I'll offer him. I think if he can manage to stay out all night with his friend, he can probably stay there a few days until he can get an apartment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 646609, member: 18099"] We finally asked him to leave last night after daughter in law revealed the he had told her he shot up heroin in our bathroom and used one of our kitchen spoons for the process. difficult child took his kids to their classes at the park on Saturday morning and didn't return home. daughter in law's sister picked them up from the park as planned and they spent the night with her, and daughter in law spent the night with her parents. Sunday morning, daughter in law called us to tell difficult child to come and pick up the kids because the younger one was sick. I told her he hadn't been home, and she was surprised. She said he wasn't answering his phone. Later he told her his phone was out of power and that he had gone to see a friend and fell asleep. He showed up to pick up the kids, and daughter in law's sister wouldn't let him have them because she thought he was high. He came home yesterday and went straight to his room and slept all day. So in the evening, my daughter, husband, and daughter in law joined me in the living room to talk to difficult child. I took the lead (surprised myself) and told him that because of his ongoing drug use we were going to have to ask him to leave. I reminded him that we had mentioned this would happen, and asked him if he remembered that conversation. He nodded yes. I told him we all loved him, and it had nothing to do with that, and listed all the people who care about him. It was a matter of legality and safety, and we hated seeing him do this to himself but we couldn't have it around us or the kids. husband asked him why he returned to heroin after he had been clean on house arrest and after the hospital. He said "I don't know." I told him he could spend the night (last night) but he needs to leave today. He said he had already planned to get an apartment on his next payday, which is Friday. I asked what he intended to do in the meantime, and he said he didn't have anywhere to stay. I said he'll need to figure something out, then. His wife had a few things to say, and she's very teary eyed about the whole matter but trying to hold it together. I asked difficult child if he had anything to say to us, and he said no. He gave the kids their baths and put them to bed, but didn't say anything to us. He left the house this morning for work and didn't say anything. I kept waking up last night feeling sick to my stomach about this whole thing. I read somewhere that a heroin addict needs a safe, supportive environment away from the streets to get better, and I feel like I just kicked him out into the worst environment. daughter in law said she's afraid he'll try to stay in one of the men's hotel/apartments that are super cheap but swarming with drugs and addicts. I said, "Well, he's managed to find drugs living here where there aren't any other drug addicts, so I don't think it matters." I keep visualizing him shooting up in our bathroom, and then I think I did the right thing. He's not gone yet, but husband and I will both be home when he gets off work this evening. I've got an old suitcase I'll offer him. I think if he can manage to stay out all night with his friend, he can probably stay there a few days until he can get an apartment. [/QUOTE]
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