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Didn't want it to come to this, might be asking difficult child to leave
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 646630" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Agree with COM and Jabber. You have swaddled him in love far beyond most kids get...he is 27. It hasn't made a stitch of difference. He has probably been using for a long time, in your house and maybe even at rehab. They find ways. He may have never quit. These are things you will never know because drug addicts don't care about being honest...they care about only the drug. They may have been nice once, but now they are in love with a drug. He should not be around the grands...that in my opinion is more important than whether or not he feels badly. You never know what the grands have seen and how it will affect them later. They are the ones who need protection, in my humble opinion. They need to be protected from HIM. What he drops something and doesn't know it and one of the kids ingests it? What if YOU get caught with drugs in your house?</p><p></p><p>Please know those of us who had had to tell a grown chld to leave, for any reason, understand your pain. The sad thing is, I doubt even one of our grown children who were asked to leave are thinking of the pain they have caused others. If your son were truly that caring right now, he would know it is best for him to separate himself from the kids. And daughter in law. And you and his father.And his brother. He is thinking of himself and is own comfort first.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Jabber is right. We are not talking about pot here. Or alcohol. We are talkie about heroin, the hardest drug to kick. Please don't allow him to not only ruin his own life, but ruin yours, DILs and the grands. Let him do this himself. He is old enough to make his own decisions. Rehabs are around and he can ask to go into one. But he's not asking.</p><p></p><p>Try an Al-Anon meeting. Please do something to help yourself. Be with others who are going through the same crapola.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 646630, member: 1550"] Agree with COM and Jabber. You have swaddled him in love far beyond most kids get...he is 27. It hasn't made a stitch of difference. He has probably been using for a long time, in your house and maybe even at rehab. They find ways. He may have never quit. These are things you will never know because drug addicts don't care about being honest...they care about only the drug. They may have been nice once, but now they are in love with a drug. He should not be around the grands...that in my opinion is more important than whether or not he feels badly. You never know what the grands have seen and how it will affect them later. They are the ones who need protection, in my humble opinion. They need to be protected from HIM. What he drops something and doesn't know it and one of the kids ingests it? What if YOU get caught with drugs in your house? Please know those of us who had had to tell a grown chld to leave, for any reason, understand your pain. The sad thing is, I doubt even one of our grown children who were asked to leave are thinking of the pain they have caused others. If your son were truly that caring right now, he would know it is best for him to separate himself from the kids. And daughter in law. And you and his father.And his brother. He is thinking of himself and is own comfort first. Jabber is right. We are not talking about pot here. Or alcohol. We are talkie about heroin, the hardest drug to kick. Please don't allow him to not only ruin his own life, but ruin yours, DILs and the grands. Let him do this himself. He is old enough to make his own decisions. Rehabs are around and he can ask to go into one. But he's not asking. Try an Al-Anon meeting. Please do something to help yourself. Be with others who are going through the same crapola. [/QUOTE]
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