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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 646861" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm glad for you. However he needs to back it up with actions. </p><p></p><p>I'm appalled that your husband wanted him back at home living with the kids again, but I guess we are all different as to what we are ok with. That would never happen in our house. And if daughter in law wanted to be with him, she'd be free to go, since she's an adult, but the grandkids would not go anywhere with either of them.</p><p></p><p>Oragami, my guess is your son started taking drugs long ago. This isn't new. Nobody starts with heroin. It evolves. Usually starts with the more harmless pot and alcohol, then moves on up. This has been your son's life for a long, long time, even though you didn't know it. </p><p></p><p>Take one day at a time, one minute at a time, don't jump to excitement or hope yet...stay on an even keel for those grands...it is possible your son may never quit. His drug of choice is very serious. If he does, then you can change how to act around him, but right now...if it were me, the grands would be my first priority, not him. He is heading toward middle age and can decide for himself what he wants his life to look like. But the kids have been around him when he was high many times and they don't need that anymore. </p><p></p><p>I wish you a healing, peaceful heart in this very difficult journey. I hope you can use your head when you make decisions and use your heart only when you need to, but not as a decision maker. When you see your son, forget the little cute boy he used to be. He is a man now and not that little boy. We see that little boy in our difficult children far too often long after they are all grown up. </p><p></p><p>I wish all of your family lots and lots of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 646861, member: 1550"] I'm glad for you. However he needs to back it up with actions. I'm appalled that your husband wanted him back at home living with the kids again, but I guess we are all different as to what we are ok with. That would never happen in our house. And if daughter in law wanted to be with him, she'd be free to go, since she's an adult, but the grandkids would not go anywhere with either of them. Oragami, my guess is your son started taking drugs long ago. This isn't new. Nobody starts with heroin. It evolves. Usually starts with the more harmless pot and alcohol, then moves on up. This has been your son's life for a long, long time, even though you didn't know it. Take one day at a time, one minute at a time, don't jump to excitement or hope yet...stay on an even keel for those grands...it is possible your son may never quit. His drug of choice is very serious. If he does, then you can change how to act around him, but right now...if it were me, the grands would be my first priority, not him. He is heading toward middle age and can decide for himself what he wants his life to look like. But the kids have been around him when he was high many times and they don't need that anymore. I wish you a healing, peaceful heart in this very difficult journey. I hope you can use your head when you make decisions and use your heart only when you need to, but not as a decision maker. When you see your son, forget the little cute boy he used to be. He is a man now and not that little boy. We see that little boy in our difficult children far too often long after they are all grown up. I wish all of your family lots and lots of luck. [/QUOTE]
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