I'd love to have those professionals meet my extremely-ADHD K2... who was as quiet as a mouse in the corner... and never made a single problem for anybody. The problem? She's ADHD-inattentive, and her body was at school but her brain was everywhere else. Distracted by every noise, every movement, and by her own thoughts. ADHD is NOT solely defined by hyperactivity... but ADHD with hyperactivity is more typically the out-of-control kind of hyper.
For J - even his "hyper" can be anxiety driven. Maybe even related to some form of insecure attachment... not your fault, and very difficult to address...
