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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 735042" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi Sam,</p><p></p><p>I doubt your mom has the right to determine whether you can stay with your dad or not. At sixteen, you have a say in most states (if you are in the US). If dad has to go back to court, you can tell the judge you can’t live at your mom’s house because of the out-of-control adult brother who lives in the house and terrorizes you and everyone else. I’m sure the judge would like to hear of the realities of your home life.</p><p></p><p>You need to stay strong and stand up to your mom. This is a case of taking care of yourself and doing what is best for yourself. It’s not your job to take care of your mother, or fix the family. It’s not your job to make sure your mom gets her way so that she isn’t mad at you. If she doesn’t like it, so be it.</p><p></p><p>Look, your mother can’t simultaneously insist that you live with her, yet allow your brother to wreak havoc upon the household. She must choose one or the other, and maybe you moving out will give the push to make her realize that life as it is now isn’t working.</p><p></p><p>As we say here, nothing changes if nothing changes.</p><p></p><p>Talk to your dad. </p><p></p><p>Don’t continue living this way.</p><p></p><p>You have a right not to live in chaos and fear.</p><p></p><p>Others can make a different choice, but they shouldn’t get to make that choice for your life. </p><p></p><p>Stay with us and let us know how it goes.</p><p></p><p>Apple</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 735042, member: 16024"] Hi Sam, I doubt your mom has the right to determine whether you can stay with your dad or not. At sixteen, you have a say in most states (if you are in the US). If dad has to go back to court, you can tell the judge you can’t live at your mom’s house because of the out-of-control adult brother who lives in the house and terrorizes you and everyone else. I’m sure the judge would like to hear of the realities of your home life. You need to stay strong and stand up to your mom. This is a case of taking care of yourself and doing what is best for yourself. It’s not your job to take care of your mother, or fix the family. It’s not your job to make sure your mom gets her way so that she isn’t mad at you. If she doesn’t like it, so be it. Look, your mother can’t simultaneously insist that you live with her, yet allow your brother to wreak havoc upon the household. She must choose one or the other, and maybe you moving out will give the push to make her realize that life as it is now isn’t working. As we say here, nothing changes if nothing changes. Talk to your dad. Don’t continue living this way. You have a right not to live in chaos and fear. Others can make a different choice, but they shouldn’t get to make that choice for your life. Stay with us and let us know how it goes. Apple [/QUOTE]
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