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difficult child 1 called me on my birthday
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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 200532" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes, husband and I went out to dinner last night to celebrate both our birthdays. We had a great time.</p><p></p><p>easy child son called me yesterday and I got an update on his situation. He says that he isn't sure what he will do about housing yet (has to be out of apt. at end of Oct.). He said he wants to give difficult child another chance and I can understand that. I told him he will know when he is "there". He said that he told her this stealing his money cannot happen again and of course she denied doing it but she knows he is on to her now and is watching his money carefully. He said he never has more than fifty dollars on him now and nothing has happened since Monday. </p><p></p><p>He said he enjoys her and the boyfriend's company and he can't just turn his back on her. Also, they helped him out when he first got out there with a place to live and money. He says those 2 are the worst people he has ever seen as far as managing their money. As soon as they have any they just spend it. Also, they are always changing their minds about what they are going to do and that drives him nuts. He said he realizes he needs stability--a stable job, place to live. He thinks difficult child and boyfriend are "good hearted" but unable to follow through with anything they say they are going to do.</p><p></p><p>He said he sees through all of difficult child's manipulations and doesn't get drawn in anymore. He said she does whatever the boyfriend wants to do--I said if she had a more stable boyfriend maybe she would be content to stay in one place and try to have a more normal life and he agreed. I said I hoped she would put the baby first when it is born but neither of us think she will. She is just so dependent on the boyfriend and will do whatever he wants. Son thinks she should put the baby up for adoption but he knows she won't.</p><p></p><p>I asked if he knew about difficult child trying to come home with a one-way ticket back in August and he did know and thought I made a wise decision not letting her come. He said he didn't want to get in the middle of difficult child and me and I laughed and said I didn't want to get in the middle of him and difficult child either. I told him I hadn't heard from her since I told her no until she called on my birthday and then she acted like nothing had ever happened. He laughed about that and said she was mad but now is over it.</p><p></p><p>I feel really good about son, he sounds like he has a level head back on his shoulders now and really understands difficult child so he won't be manipulated by her. I think it is okay if he gives her another chance because I think if she blows it again it really will be the last chance and he will feel he gave her every opportunity to behave well. He is really a nice person, that makes me feel good. And somehow difficult child is lovable despite everything. I guess most of us feel that way about our difficult children!</p><p></p><p>Thanks,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 200532, member: 3208"] Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes, husband and I went out to dinner last night to celebrate both our birthdays. We had a great time. easy child son called me yesterday and I got an update on his situation. He says that he isn't sure what he will do about housing yet (has to be out of apt. at end of Oct.). He said he wants to give difficult child another chance and I can understand that. I told him he will know when he is "there". He said that he told her this stealing his money cannot happen again and of course she denied doing it but she knows he is on to her now and is watching his money carefully. He said he never has more than fifty dollars on him now and nothing has happened since Monday. He said he enjoys her and the boyfriend's company and he can't just turn his back on her. Also, they helped him out when he first got out there with a place to live and money. He says those 2 are the worst people he has ever seen as far as managing their money. As soon as they have any they just spend it. Also, they are always changing their minds about what they are going to do and that drives him nuts. He said he realizes he needs stability--a stable job, place to live. He thinks difficult child and boyfriend are "good hearted" but unable to follow through with anything they say they are going to do. He said he sees through all of difficult child's manipulations and doesn't get drawn in anymore. He said she does whatever the boyfriend wants to do--I said if she had a more stable boyfriend maybe she would be content to stay in one place and try to have a more normal life and he agreed. I said I hoped she would put the baby first when it is born but neither of us think she will. She is just so dependent on the boyfriend and will do whatever he wants. Son thinks she should put the baby up for adoption but he knows she won't. I asked if he knew about difficult child trying to come home with a one-way ticket back in August and he did know and thought I made a wise decision not letting her come. He said he didn't want to get in the middle of difficult child and me and I laughed and said I didn't want to get in the middle of him and difficult child either. I told him I hadn't heard from her since I told her no until she called on my birthday and then she acted like nothing had ever happened. He laughed about that and said she was mad but now is over it. I feel really good about son, he sounds like he has a level head back on his shoulders now and really understands difficult child so he won't be manipulated by her. I think it is okay if he gives her another chance because I think if she blows it again it really will be the last chance and he will feel he gave her every opportunity to behave well. He is really a nice person, that makes me feel good. And somehow difficult child is lovable despite everything. I guess most of us feel that way about our difficult children! Thanks, Jane [/QUOTE]
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