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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 484757" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Yeah, I 'm with Bunny, I dont do the homeschool thing but I certainly have found myself stuck in ruts that are self reinforcing and create more problems until you find a way to break teh cycle. </p><p></p><p>I am willing to brain storm,but of course it may be impossible to do some of these things because YOU HAVE TWO! lol. I dont know how that will work....</p><p></p><p>1. spread your "help" availability times out .... you have two morning hours, two mid afternoon hours..... </p><p></p><p>2. bathroom/shower time is limited to a specific time (not during your "office hours") regardless of the day, regardless of if his work is done and he needs you, just to keep things consistent, always the same times.</p><p></p><p>3. stick to your guns.... missing a night of b-ball and having to do double work the next day??? well.... will he learn from that kind of logical consequence?</p><p></p><p>4. what are the issues to his not being able to do it (even when he says he can and doesn't need your help?) is it all the way he processes, interprets and how you can explain it to him? Can you go thru the assignments ahead of time, write out the directions step by step before he starts the lesson? In your words... may work for SOME of the lessons. </p><p></p><p>5. why does he think he can do it alone...is he really just avoiding the work? if so, what is driving that? just taht it is not fun, or is it just that it is what it is, work? Not much you can do if that is the case, lol. </p><p></p><p>6. next idea from another cd member??? </p><p></p><p>I don't know, just trying to help, but certainly I get it that it is ALL easier said than done. </p><p></p><p>How does he do his breaks when working by the way? do you have scheduled breaks? hmmmm.... maybe an Occupational Therapist (OT) can help with this. since he is on an IEP, may be a related service you can use, consulting from time to time. Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 484757, member: 12886"] Yeah, I 'm with Bunny, I dont do the homeschool thing but I certainly have found myself stuck in ruts that are self reinforcing and create more problems until you find a way to break teh cycle. I am willing to brain storm,but of course it may be impossible to do some of these things because YOU HAVE TWO! lol. I dont know how that will work.... 1. spread your "help" availability times out .... you have two morning hours, two mid afternoon hours..... 2. bathroom/shower time is limited to a specific time (not during your "office hours") regardless of the day, regardless of if his work is done and he needs you, just to keep things consistent, always the same times. 3. stick to your guns.... missing a night of b-ball and having to do double work the next day??? well.... will he learn from that kind of logical consequence? 4. what are the issues to his not being able to do it (even when he says he can and doesn't need your help?) is it all the way he processes, interprets and how you can explain it to him? Can you go thru the assignments ahead of time, write out the directions step by step before he starts the lesson? In your words... may work for SOME of the lessons. 5. why does he think he can do it alone...is he really just avoiding the work? if so, what is driving that? just taht it is not fun, or is it just that it is what it is, work? Not much you can do if that is the case, lol. 6. next idea from another cd member??? I don't know, just trying to help, but certainly I get it that it is ALL easier said than done. How does he do his breaks when working by the way? do you have scheduled breaks? hmmmm.... maybe an Occupational Therapist (OT) can help with this. since he is on an IEP, may be a related service you can use, consulting from time to time. Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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