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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 484908"><p>I have decided to set up a schedule kind of like they have in school that certain subjects are done at certain times. After the "day" is over, he's on his own. It may take some time but just might work.</p><p></p><p>That is one of his calming things so that's why I don't want to do that just yet. Today, I think it was to avoid working. 99% of the time it's not.</p><p></p><p>I have tried that before and then he felt so pressured to get it done that he melted down from the anxiety. That's when the "it's your fault because you wouldn't help me" comes in to play (said out of frustration and anxiety).</p><p></p><p>Mostly it's the reading comprehension stuff (which is most of it for all subjects). I almost need every lesson on tape so he can do it himself. For Language Arts (English), I found the novel they're reading on tape. He used it today and he comprehended a LOT more. I just with it was available for all the subjects.</p><p></p><p> He says that when he's mad at me. He just wants to "be away" from me so he says that out of frustration. That's why he usually comes "crawling" back later (after he's calmed down) and says he needs my help.</p><p></p><p>That has been very "flexible". As part of the new schedule, I plan to allow an hour per lesson (they usually take 30-45 mins) and he gets a break until it's time to start the next subject. So far, I've let him take a break when he's needed one. I think I need to schedule them in and see how that goes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 484908"] I have decided to set up a schedule kind of like they have in school that certain subjects are done at certain times. After the "day" is over, he's on his own. It may take some time but just might work. That is one of his calming things so that's why I don't want to do that just yet. Today, I think it was to avoid working. 99% of the time it's not. I have tried that before and then he felt so pressured to get it done that he melted down from the anxiety. That's when the "it's your fault because you wouldn't help me" comes in to play (said out of frustration and anxiety). Mostly it's the reading comprehension stuff (which is most of it for all subjects). I almost need every lesson on tape so he can do it himself. For Language Arts (English), I found the novel they're reading on tape. He used it today and he comprehended a LOT more. I just with it was available for all the subjects. He says that when he's mad at me. He just wants to "be away" from me so he says that out of frustration. That's why he usually comes "crawling" back later (after he's calmed down) and says he needs my help. That has been very "flexible". As part of the new schedule, I plan to allow an hour per lesson (they usually take 30-45 mins) and he gets a break until it's time to start the next subject. So far, I've let him take a break when he's needed one. I think I need to schedule them in and see how that goes. [/QUOTE]
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