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difficult child 17. How will he handle adulthood?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 105095" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Just a few comments and a big hello :smile:</p><p>First off, ODD is rarely a stand alone diagnosis. Other things usually cause the ODD, such as a mood disorder or high functioning autism. I am guessing he perhaps got his diagnosis from a psychologist. in my opinion he should get another evaluation from an adult psychiatrist or a neuropsychologist to see if more is going on that ODD (all the kids on this site at one time had ODD behavior--it is more of a symptom than THE problem).</p><p>Secondly, I'd never let a child who was so immature and so unaware of his problems and so unstable go away to college. That pretty much means he has no supervision and can do what he wants on your dime, plus he won't be getting any help. Not trying to be a pessimist, but I bet he won't last a half a year. I'd send him somewhere where he'd have to come home at night. Drugs, drinking and other temping behaviors for our impulsive kids just are a normal part of the atmosphere in college dorms. I worry about "typical" kids going there and giving into the temptations, and your son has problems. His mental health, and stabilization, in my opinion is far more important right now than college because if he won't listen to authority he won't be able to hold a job. Has he used illegal substances or drank a lot or do you suspect it? For the record, I raised two boys who are now thirty who never broke things or threw things across the room in anger. Yes, one of them, in particular, would get mouthy to me, but he knew where the boundaries were. On slobbery, all of my kids were slobs, but the ones that have moved out and have their own homes now are factitious. Go figure. Guess it was just to drive me nuts :wink: I wish you luck whatever you decide to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 105095, member: 1550"] Just a few comments and a big hello [img]:smile:[/img] First off, ODD is rarely a stand alone diagnosis. Other things usually cause the ODD, such as a mood disorder or high functioning autism. I am guessing he perhaps got his diagnosis from a psychologist. in my opinion he should get another evaluation from an adult psychiatrist or a neuropsychologist to see if more is going on that ODD (all the kids on this site at one time had ODD behavior--it is more of a symptom than THE problem). Secondly, I'd never let a child who was so immature and so unaware of his problems and so unstable go away to college. That pretty much means he has no supervision and can do what he wants on your dime, plus he won't be getting any help. Not trying to be a pessimist, but I bet he won't last a half a year. I'd send him somewhere where he'd have to come home at night. Drugs, drinking and other temping behaviors for our impulsive kids just are a normal part of the atmosphere in college dorms. I worry about "typical" kids going there and giving into the temptations, and your son has problems. His mental health, and stabilization, in my opinion is far more important right now than college because if he won't listen to authority he won't be able to hold a job. Has he used illegal substances or drank a lot or do you suspect it? For the record, I raised two boys who are now thirty who never broke things or threw things across the room in anger. Yes, one of them, in particular, would get mouthy to me, but he knew where the boundaries were. On slobbery, all of my kids were slobs, but the ones that have moved out and have their own homes now are factitious. Go figure. Guess it was just to drive me nuts [img]:wink:[/img] I wish you luck whatever you decide to do. [/QUOTE]
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