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difficult child 23 y/o living with me again, problems....
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 545315" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. I don't remember you or your situation, but sounds to me like you should limit his food to bare minimum. He doesn't need potato chips, treats, etc. He can find a part time job and pay for his food and if he doesn't like that, he can eat what is in the house, leaving enough for you. He's not a child. </p><p></p><p>If he gets abusive, I would probably consider making him leave again, this time having to pay for his own lodgings. Sometimes the sink or swim method is the only way to make our grown adult children actually GROW UP. in my opinion it doesn't help him when you make it comfortable for him to loaf around, make excuses about jobs, and act like a child, doing nothing to help around the house. </p><p></p><p>If you make him leave, he will find places to stay. At the worst case scenario, you can hand him a list of soup kitchens and homeless shelters. Of course, he may not be able to afford his pot then, but is that a bad thing? I would consider it for my health and for his growth. JMO. </p><p></p><p>Good luck, whatever you decide to do.</p><p></p><p>P.S.--I would tell him that he is in no position to be picky about a job and force him to take whatever there is, even if he is a cashier at a gas station, flipping burgers, or bagging groceries. It would be a dealbreaker for me if he wouldn't do it. His bags would be packed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 545315, member: 1550"] Hi. I don't remember you or your situation, but sounds to me like you should limit his food to bare minimum. He doesn't need potato chips, treats, etc. He can find a part time job and pay for his food and if he doesn't like that, he can eat what is in the house, leaving enough for you. He's not a child. If he gets abusive, I would probably consider making him leave again, this time having to pay for his own lodgings. Sometimes the sink or swim method is the only way to make our grown adult children actually GROW UP. in my opinion it doesn't help him when you make it comfortable for him to loaf around, make excuses about jobs, and act like a child, doing nothing to help around the house. If you make him leave, he will find places to stay. At the worst case scenario, you can hand him a list of soup kitchens and homeless shelters. Of course, he may not be able to afford his pot then, but is that a bad thing? I would consider it for my health and for his growth. JMO. Good luck, whatever you decide to do. P.S.--I would tell him that he is in no position to be picky about a job and force him to take whatever there is, even if he is a cashier at a gas station, flipping burgers, or bagging groceries. It would be a dealbreaker for me if he wouldn't do it. His bags would be packed. [/QUOTE]
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