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<blockquote data-quote="Roxona" data-source="post: 685630" data-attributes="member: 19076"><p>Hi Motherof4. What a hard situation you have found yourself in. The whole idea of cps is scary business. You mention that you have four children, and that you are having a very hard time with the oldest. You also mentioned that his father would like custody. So, I guess my question is, why not? Maybe it's what your son needs to help him settle down and get into a better frame of mind? I can understand that we as mothers have a hard time letting our children go. I felt that way with my son who is now 20. There was no way in the world I was ever going to let my son live with his dad. Looking back now, there may have been times, especially in his teen years, where it might have been better for him to be with his father. I believe boys in their teen need a strong, positive male role model in their lives.</p><p></p><p>I recommend getting the counseling. It sounds like your son can set you off pretty quickly, and I think it would be a good idea to take this time to explore ways to deal with the anger that wells up inside you when he pushes your buttons. Lately, a lot of people on the boards have been discussing a book called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is a really terrific book. It helped me when my son was growing up, and it's helping me while raising my younger stepsons. I recommend picking it up and giving the ideas it contains some consideration. You might even be able to get it at the library.</p><p></p><p>As for cps, I'm afraid you are just going to have to be patient. From what I understand, they are very busy and may be under staffed. I think calling them once a day and leaving a message is okay, but I would leave it at that. It's not going to help you if you freak out on them. Your children are safe with relatives for now. Instead, take this time to decompress and to start thinking of ways to reduce your stress level. Perhaps there are some parenting classes nearby that pertain to dealing with difficult children. Your counselor may have some information on that.</p><p></p><p>I hope some of this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Roxona, post: 685630, member: 19076"] Hi Motherof4. What a hard situation you have found yourself in. The whole idea of cps is scary business. You mention that you have four children, and that you are having a very hard time with the oldest. You also mentioned that his father would like custody. So, I guess my question is, why not? Maybe it's what your son needs to help him settle down and get into a better frame of mind? I can understand that we as mothers have a hard time letting our children go. I felt that way with my son who is now 20. There was no way in the world I was ever going to let my son live with his dad. Looking back now, there may have been times, especially in his teen years, where it might have been better for him to be with his father. I believe boys in their teen need a strong, positive male role model in their lives. I recommend getting the counseling. It sounds like your son can set you off pretty quickly, and I think it would be a good idea to take this time to explore ways to deal with the anger that wells up inside you when he pushes your buttons. Lately, a lot of people on the boards have been discussing a book called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is a really terrific book. It helped me when my son was growing up, and it's helping me while raising my younger stepsons. I recommend picking it up and giving the ideas it contains some consideration. You might even be able to get it at the library. As for cps, I'm afraid you are just going to have to be patient. From what I understand, they are very busy and may be under staffed. I think calling them once a day and leaving a message is okay, but I would leave it at that. It's not going to help you if you freak out on them. Your children are safe with relatives for now. Instead, take this time to decompress and to start thinking of ways to reduce your stress level. Perhaps there are some parenting classes nearby that pertain to dealing with difficult children. Your counselor may have some information on that. I hope some of this helps. [/QUOTE]
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