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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 742581" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi and welcome, weary.</p><p></p><p>I have a slightly different perspective on this situation. It may or may not be anything resembling your situation, but I just wanted to throw it out there.</p><p></p><p> I was an only child whose mother married a guy with several kids. The youngest was especially difficult and would inevitably cause us to get into trouble when we tried to play with him, or he would end up hitting someone (and blame his response on one of us). It was easier just to stay away from him whenever possible.</p><p></p><p>Maybe the step-sons are just trying to protect themselves by pulling away and ignoring your son, not bullying him.</p><p></p><p>By all accounts (yours) these boys are great kids, and they are wonderful with your daughter. They will come around, given the right approach, I believe.</p><p></p><p>Maybe it would be a good idea for you and your step-sons to go to counseling together, and really listen to what they have to say. The way to get them to empathize with your son is empathizing with them and their resentments (and they do have legitimate issues). I don’t think less time with their father is a good idea, in the long run. Getting the blended family to blend more smoothly would be better for all.</p><p></p><p>Become allies with them, and they will be more likely to work with your son and you. Some jealousy is normal, but if you can get them on your side, it will become less of a problem.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, good luck.</p><p></p><p>Apple</p><p></p><p>Edited to add—now, that brother an I are closer than any of the other siblings are. And he can still be difficult at times.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 742581, member: 16024"] Hi and welcome, weary. I have a slightly different perspective on this situation. It may or may not be anything resembling your situation, but I just wanted to throw it out there. I was an only child whose mother married a guy with several kids. The youngest was especially difficult and would inevitably cause us to get into trouble when we tried to play with him, or he would end up hitting someone (and blame his response on one of us). It was easier just to stay away from him whenever possible. Maybe the step-sons are just trying to protect themselves by pulling away and ignoring your son, not bullying him. By all accounts (yours) these boys are great kids, and they are wonderful with your daughter. They will come around, given the right approach, I believe. Maybe it would be a good idea for you and your step-sons to go to counseling together, and really listen to what they have to say. The way to get them to empathize with your son is empathizing with them and their resentments (and they do have legitimate issues). I don’t think less time with their father is a good idea, in the long run. Getting the blended family to blend more smoothly would be better for all. Become allies with them, and they will be more likely to work with your son and you. Some jealousy is normal, but if you can get them on your side, it will become less of a problem. Anyway, good luck. Apple Edited to add—now, that brother an I are closer than any of the other siblings are. And he can still be difficult at times. [/QUOTE]
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