Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
difficult child Behavior I Hate The Most
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 478922"><p>Daisy, that is almost exactly how I describe it too, only I call it difficult child World. I have said on more than one occasion that I would reall love to live in difficult child World because it must be great to expect everything to be your own way. </p><p></p><p>I believe that what I'm dealing with is a manifestation of his feeling about where he stands in the family. With difficult child and easy child, it's not just the idea that difficult child can do what he wants and get away with it, it's the controlling and bullying behavior that difficult child exhibits towards easy child. I can understand why he feel that way sometimes. If I tell easy child to brush his teeth, easy child's response is, "Yes, mama," and he trots off to the bathroom to do as he was asked to do. If I tell difficult child to brush his teeth I get a temper tantrum that can last for quite a while, screaming about how he doesn't want to brush his teeth. So, he has to face consequences for his behavioral choices and to him it looks like easy child is more love, more wanted, more needed, when in reality if he would simply do as I asked him the first time, or if he would simply say, "Can I do it in five minutes?" he would not need to feel like easy child is loved more. Speak nicely with me and I will work with difficult child until the cows come home. Does that make sense? We've discussed this with the therapist, and he sees exactly what I'm saying, but getting difficult child to get it is a whole other issue.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 478922"] Daisy, that is almost exactly how I describe it too, only I call it difficult child World. I have said on more than one occasion that I would reall love to live in difficult child World because it must be great to expect everything to be your own way. I believe that what I'm dealing with is a manifestation of his feeling about where he stands in the family. With difficult child and easy child, it's not just the idea that difficult child can do what he wants and get away with it, it's the controlling and bullying behavior that difficult child exhibits towards easy child. I can understand why he feel that way sometimes. If I tell easy child to brush his teeth, easy child's response is, "Yes, mama," and he trots off to the bathroom to do as he was asked to do. If I tell difficult child to brush his teeth I get a temper tantrum that can last for quite a while, screaming about how he doesn't want to brush his teeth. So, he has to face consequences for his behavioral choices and to him it looks like easy child is more love, more wanted, more needed, when in reality if he would simply do as I asked him the first time, or if he would simply say, "Can I do it in five minutes?" he would not need to feel like easy child is loved more. Speak nicely with me and I will work with difficult child until the cows come home. Does that make sense? We've discussed this with the therapist, and he sees exactly what I'm saying, but getting difficult child to get it is a whole other issue. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
difficult child Behavior I Hate The Most
Top