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Difficult Child called mother in law and she picked her up!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="WearyMom18" data-source="post: 652317" data-attributes="member: 18856"><p>I just spoke with my mother in law and she explained that she couldn't bring herself to allow my Difficult Child to be stranded on the side of the highway for the night. She picked up her and explained to her that she would not do it again and that this morning she needed to get up and go because she cannot stay there. My mother in law says she was giggling and acting strangely last night which I know is meth from previous experience with her. Sickening. My mother in law says she smells horribly and needs a bath and clean clothes. My Difficult Child told her that she had her clothes and things at a friends house and had a place to stay so when she wakes up today, my father in law is going to take her there and they said that is it. They are totally onboard with me and actually apologized for going and picking her up but I can understand how hard this must be for them too. They agree with my approach of not allowing her to live at home and support my suggestion to my Difficult Child that she seek help from a shelter. I have given her the name and phone number for one that caters to her age group and will provide direction on how to transition to independent living, provide meals and even job training. It is up to her to reach out.</p><p></p><p>I had a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach when I found out she was back in our hometown because I just knew she would pop up somewhere with our family. She told my mother in law that she didn't call me or my husband because she knew we wouldn't come and get her. She told my mother in law that we kicked her out (actually that my husband did) so she clearly has a very distorted view of her situation. We did not kick her out, she left in a hurry with a bag full of clothes because she knew the police would be coming soon to our home. My husband did tell her, when she took off running down the road, to not come back. I guess that's why she says we kicked her out. What a mess.</p><p></p><p>This is so hurtful and I still feel some guilt that I am not helping her but I am starting to better understand the concept that she CHOSE to not follow our very reasonable house rules, she CHOSE to disrespect us, or the drugs did and she continues to CHOOSE to do drugs - all things that I refuse to live with. I ache for my child that is beautiful and only 18 years old and so capable of living a good life and she just won't - she still sees us as the problem and herself as a victim and it's just exhausting and frustrated.</p><p></p><p>I begin to think I am getting stronger at this but then she pops up and I'm back down in the slums of feeling so sad I can hardly stand it. I guess it's kind of like 'Out of sight, out of mind'? I hate this - this whole situation.</p><p></p><p>I could use some re-assurance today that I AM doing the right thing for both her and myself....days like today make me question my path although I can already see how peaceful my life is without her drama and abuse and I feel like I deserve that peace. I also feel, at times, that I'm giving up on her and on my responsibilities as a mother and that just makes me crazy..the doubt and the guilt.</p><p></p><p>Thank God I have you ladies....don't know what I would do without this forum. </p><p></p><p>Especially weary....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyMom18, post: 652317, member: 18856"] I just spoke with my mother in law and she explained that she couldn't bring herself to allow my Difficult Child to be stranded on the side of the highway for the night. She picked up her and explained to her that she would not do it again and that this morning she needed to get up and go because she cannot stay there. My mother in law says she was giggling and acting strangely last night which I know is meth from previous experience with her. Sickening. My mother in law says she smells horribly and needs a bath and clean clothes. My Difficult Child told her that she had her clothes and things at a friends house and had a place to stay so when she wakes up today, my father in law is going to take her there and they said that is it. They are totally onboard with me and actually apologized for going and picking her up but I can understand how hard this must be for them too. They agree with my approach of not allowing her to live at home and support my suggestion to my Difficult Child that she seek help from a shelter. I have given her the name and phone number for one that caters to her age group and will provide direction on how to transition to independent living, provide meals and even job training. It is up to her to reach out. I had a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach when I found out she was back in our hometown because I just knew she would pop up somewhere with our family. She told my mother in law that she didn't call me or my husband because she knew we wouldn't come and get her. She told my mother in law that we kicked her out (actually that my husband did) so she clearly has a very distorted view of her situation. We did not kick her out, she left in a hurry with a bag full of clothes because she knew the police would be coming soon to our home. My husband did tell her, when she took off running down the road, to not come back. I guess that's why she says we kicked her out. What a mess. This is so hurtful and I still feel some guilt that I am not helping her but I am starting to better understand the concept that she CHOSE to not follow our very reasonable house rules, she CHOSE to disrespect us, or the drugs did and she continues to CHOOSE to do drugs - all things that I refuse to live with. I ache for my child that is beautiful and only 18 years old and so capable of living a good life and she just won't - she still sees us as the problem and herself as a victim and it's just exhausting and frustrated. I begin to think I am getting stronger at this but then she pops up and I'm back down in the slums of feeling so sad I can hardly stand it. I guess it's kind of like 'Out of sight, out of mind'? I hate this - this whole situation. I could use some re-assurance today that I AM doing the right thing for both her and myself....days like today make me question my path although I can already see how peaceful my life is without her drama and abuse and I feel like I deserve that peace. I also feel, at times, that I'm giving up on her and on my responsibilities as a mother and that just makes me crazy..the doubt and the guilt. Thank God I have you ladies....don't know what I would do without this forum. Especially weary.... [/QUOTE]
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