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Difficult Child called mother in law and she picked her up!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 652318" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Oh WearyMom, I'm so sorry. These are the ups and downs that our Difficult Child put us through. It's really hard when they involve other family members. They have a knack for seeking out who they think will be the most sympathetic to them. You have sent a clear message to her that you are done "helping" her so she moved onto Grandma.</p><p> </p><p>As the other members have stated, you have no control over how your mother in-law will choose to respond, nor do you have any control over who your daughter will call on for help.</p><p>Hopefully she will leave your mother in-laws home without incident. Now here's the hard part, if she doesn't you may have to call the police, perhaps the threat of calling them will be enough.</p><p>You said she had been kicked out of where she was staying, this may or may not be true but I would ask her why and you may or may not get the truth but it offers an opportunity to point out to her that her choices are creating chaos not only for her but your family. I would also point out to her that it is selfish to put her grandparents through this kind of stress and worry or you for that matter. Of course if you choose to do this you will be engaging her which will most likely not be pretty.</p><p> </p><p>I so wish I could give a simple answer that would make this all tolerable but the truth is there are no simple easy answers. It is hard, your heart will be put the limits but what is true is that you can do this. You will find you have an inner strength that will hold you up.</p><p> </p><p>I am keeping good thoughts for you and I hope you feel the strength from all of us here who are supporting you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 652318, member: 18516"] Oh WearyMom, I'm so sorry. These are the ups and downs that our Difficult Child put us through. It's really hard when they involve other family members. They have a knack for seeking out who they think will be the most sympathetic to them. You have sent a clear message to her that you are done "helping" her so she moved onto Grandma. As the other members have stated, you have no control over how your mother in-law will choose to respond, nor do you have any control over who your daughter will call on for help. Hopefully she will leave your mother in-laws home without incident. Now here's the hard part, if she doesn't you may have to call the police, perhaps the threat of calling them will be enough. You said she had been kicked out of where she was staying, this may or may not be true but I would ask her why and you may or may not get the truth but it offers an opportunity to point out to her that her choices are creating chaos not only for her but your family. I would also point out to her that it is selfish to put her grandparents through this kind of stress and worry or you for that matter. Of course if you choose to do this you will be engaging her which will most likely not be pretty. I so wish I could give a simple answer that would make this all tolerable but the truth is there are no simple easy answers. It is hard, your heart will be put the limits but what is true is that you can do this. You will find you have an inner strength that will hold you up. I am keeping good thoughts for you and I hope you feel the strength from all of us here who are supporting you. [/QUOTE]
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