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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 40279" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>Thank you all! Your well wishes mean so much</p><p></p><p>I have had 2 lightbulb moments!!</p><p></p><p>I guess I always assumed my son must be miserable in all his wrong choices. As Jbrain has pointed out he IS doing what he WANTS to do. The only time he is miserable is when I am trying to get him to do something he doesn't want to do or when he has gotten caught doing something wrong.</p><p></p><p>The other so simple to understand yet has been so far out of my reach</p><p></p><p>My choice was either to support him in doing it or</p><p>not support him while he did it.</p><p></p><p>Thanks Barbara, you will never know the impact you have with the thoughts you share.</p><p></p><p>In reading that statement I suddenly understood why I had been so distrant in these last weeks. I was supporting him while he was doing these things. I COULD NOT be okay inside knowing that I was allowing him to continue to be unresponsible and using.</p><p></p><p>He has a courtdate tomorrow, we will see what happens...</p><p></p><p>This will be the first time he has gone to court without mom, maybe it will sink in that mom has had enough! (just between us on the board ~ if it were possible for me to be there I am sure I couldn't stay away ~ but it was meant to be this way, I have no way to leave the shop and be in court)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 40279, member: 2389"] Thank you all! Your well wishes mean so much I have had 2 lightbulb moments!! I guess I always assumed my son must be miserable in all his wrong choices. As Jbrain has pointed out he IS doing what he WANTS to do. The only time he is miserable is when I am trying to get him to do something he doesn't want to do or when he has gotten caught doing something wrong. The other so simple to understand yet has been so far out of my reach My choice was either to support him in doing it or not support him while he did it. Thanks Barbara, you will never know the impact you have with the thoughts you share. In reading that statement I suddenly understood why I had been so distrant in these last weeks. I was supporting him while he was doing these things. I COULD NOT be okay inside knowing that I was allowing him to continue to be unresponsible and using. He has a courtdate tomorrow, we will see what happens... This will be the first time he has gone to court without mom, maybe it will sink in that mom has had enough! (just between us on the board ~ if it were possible for me to be there I am sure I couldn't stay away ~ but it was meant to be this way, I have no way to leave the shop and be in court) [/QUOTE]
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