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difficult child crashed. On hospital, not sure if neuro or mental crisis
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 636943" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm sure that has it's part. As an athlete every failure is so public and criticism from the outside is harsh (in fact little less so from coaches and team mates, for the last decade the catch phrase in coaching philosophy has been: "Mistakes are allowed." They are more afraid players are too afraid to try anything, if they are criticised too much for the mistakes they make.) But of course just knowing the expectations and feeling of letting everyone down, if he fails to do well is hard.</p><p></p><p>However I'm not sure how much of it is external and how much is internal. difficult child is an extremely intense person. Always high maintenance, high strung, perfectionist to a T. Insanely competitive. Not just with his sport but about everything. That has always been so and I'm afraid I was not being him a good example when he was young. And while I did try to discourage the self-loathing that came with all that, I also used and encouraged that drive, because I saw it something that would help difficult child be as high functioning as possible and it felt so very important back then, when I was thinking that it could make a difference between having a more normal life and being limited to live with extra help through his adulthood.</p><p></p><p>But while I would do things differently now if I would get a do over, I'm not sure if it would make much difference. It is who difficult child is, who he has been from the moment the midwife gave him to me while the cord had not yet even been cut.</p><p></p><p>I'm afraid that if it weren't the sports, it would be something else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 636943, member: 14557"] I'm sure that has it's part. As an athlete every failure is so public and criticism from the outside is harsh (in fact little less so from coaches and team mates, for the last decade the catch phrase in coaching philosophy has been: "Mistakes are allowed." They are more afraid players are too afraid to try anything, if they are criticised too much for the mistakes they make.) But of course just knowing the expectations and feeling of letting everyone down, if he fails to do well is hard. However I'm not sure how much of it is external and how much is internal. difficult child is an extremely intense person. Always high maintenance, high strung, perfectionist to a T. Insanely competitive. Not just with his sport but about everything. That has always been so and I'm afraid I was not being him a good example when he was young. And while I did try to discourage the self-loathing that came with all that, I also used and encouraged that drive, because I saw it something that would help difficult child be as high functioning as possible and it felt so very important back then, when I was thinking that it could make a difference between having a more normal life and being limited to live with extra help through his adulthood. But while I would do things differently now if I would get a do over, I'm not sure if it would make much difference. It is who difficult child is, who he has been from the moment the midwife gave him to me while the cord had not yet even been cut. I'm afraid that if it weren't the sports, it would be something else. [/QUOTE]
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