Thank you all!
Wiped Out - therapist had recommended this book awhile back. difficult child did a few pages but didn't feel at the time that he had a problem. He actually had mellowed out and was doing fine so I tucked the book away instead of making it a huge issue. There are still things he doesn't like sharing with therapist - things that he thinks will make therapist feel less about him. difficult child needs to understand that no one is judging, that we just want to help him find ways to make life easier.
InSane - You are so right - It is only people who see the unfairness and have the drive to change it who really can make a difference. Just think if all our leaders were so unselfish as to want to make things right for their corner of the world instead of lining their own pockets and searching out the camera for self glory how much better our world would be. I try to believe that our quieter leaders are doing such but hard to look past those who are causing more trouble then good.
Crazymama - Thank you so much for replying. "Sabotage" - that is a word I have been looking for to explain what his anger does. I used to call it "revenge" but "sabotage" seems to be a better fit - it goes a bit deeper - a level/description of revenge that difficult child will understand more. That is what he tries to do when he is angry and now that we have a name for it, it will be a bit easier to tackle.
