SFR - you didn't hog my thread, you shared your experiences, which is what I was looking for, so thank you!
I do not think that difficult child should change what she is doing and I'm not sure exactly how she feels about switching her medications and adding a mood stabilizer...but I do know she is concerned about the times when she acts out and forgets it happened. She really does this a lot - always has...I don't know the right answer, but I think I may have a little ptsd from when she was younger and we had to try different medications and all the tweaking seemed to hurt her rather than help her. The only medications I can say were a godsend was the risperdal and celexa or zoloft...everything else? Absolute garbage!!!
difficult child is at the dentist this morning and I'm hoping she stops by my office on the way home so I can check in with her and see if she's given this any thought or talked it over with her fiance.