That's the problem with mood stabilizers. They may calm you to the point of making you feel like a zombie, but a lot of people can't stand the foggy headed, dead feeling they often give you so they quit taking them. Since I did take them, I get it. I tried Tegretal too and it made me just as zombied out as t he others, although not as hungry. Maybe psychiatrists prescribe too high a dose?
No matter how sick you are without medications, nobody likes the feeling of being dead inside. Also, in my case, they made me even more depressed and immobilized. Mood stabilizers are also famous for cognitive dulling, in which you are just not as able or as sharp as you were without them. That's what my daughter meant when she called Depakote her "stupid" pill. It made it very hard for her to think and she was in Cosmetology school at the time. And she had always been very bright...this cognitive dulling scared her.
On another note, I'm a little unsure why your child would forget her fits. Have you ever looked into epilepsy? She ever see a neurologist?