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difficult child did call me for Mothers day!
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 531881"><p>My mother's day was nice. PC17 was participating in the Relay for Life at his HS (American cancer society fundraiser) which went from 7pm to 7am - so he basically came home and slept until 2. PC15 slept pretty late too. H got up early, ran to the grocery store and brought home the makings of French Toast & Bacon and a bunch of flowers and a sweet card. He made us both a big breakfast and we read the paper. Then the yard work began. First nice weekend in ages - and our deck needs to be rebuilt. We have out of town guests coming for easy child's HS grad on June 7 - and it needs to be finished by then. So, he started ripping it apart and I sprayed the yard weeds. We capped it off with an hour long trip to Home Depot at 4pm and then Chinese food (my choice, didn't want to go out).</p><p></p><p>PC15 made me a lovely card and wrote the sentiment inside. It touched me so deeply, that I have to share. <em>"Happy Mother's Day. Thank you for doing all the things you have done for me through these past 15 years. Thank you for taking me to sporting events/practice, school, appointments, friend's houses, you name it. Thank you for looking out for me in life and making sure I am always okay and happy. Thank you for doing all the things you do in my life that have made it great. You are the best mom anyone could ask for and do not let anyone say that you are not.</em> Of course, we all know who "anyone" is (difficult child) and that made me wince a bit. I LOVE the card but I also realize he is trying to make up for the pain his brother has caused and difficult child's disdain of all we did and I feel bad about that. Like a bit of innocence lost I guess. I am not dwelling on it, but I know you guys understand. And I guess as a "youngest child with a difficult child sibling", I am especially sensitive to it. I remember feeling the need to fill the gap (which my own mother stoked) and I hate that my sweet, sensitive youngest must be feeling that way too despite my efforts to shelter him.</p><p></p><p>difficult child sent a Mother's day card. Not a gushy or OTT card- "Thinking of you on Mother's Day and sending love your way" in which he wrote <em>I hope you have a great mother's day and I look forward to seeing you soon. Love you , difficult child </em>It came earlier in the week, so I had a bit of relief knowing he was acknowledging it, and I opened it yesterday. So that was nice. I also received a gushy , OTT "Thank you note" from his girlfriend to whom I had sent a birthday card earlier in the week. (A very simple birthday card, signed "Love, the XXXXXXs" ) Still can't figure out what is going on there ( a thank you note for a b-day card?), but it is what it is. I didn't hear from difficult child though and I texted him a "thank you for the lovely card, goodnight" at 10:00pm and he didn't text back. 1 step forward, 1/2 step back.</p><p></p><p>I got a grumbled "Happy Mother's Day" from my cranky 17 yo at around 2pm. (I think I've mentioned before that he's a little quirky and an intensely private old soul. He was born a grumpy old man! It works for him - so we let him be.) We ate dinner, no card, no present, nothing. At 8pm, I put on my pjs and when I came out of my room, there was a card on the kitchen counter with "Mom" written on it. I opened a lovely card with an Amazon gc from PC17. (and no he hadn't just run out to get it-so I don't know why?) So, I thanked him profusely and he SMILED at me. So, it was a good day.</p><p></p><p>Except that my nose still hurts and it's healing ugly and I will likely need plastic surgery to fix it. To add insult to injury, Blue Cross sent me a<em> notification of processed (ie unpaid) claim</em> and apparently when the ENT used to scope to examine my nose, the code is considered "surgery" and is not a covered office service so it is subject to my deductible. $687 to look up my nose with a light. YAY. Hopefully, the plastic surgery will be covered as medically necessary and I guess I would have needed to meet my deductible regardless. But STILL. I mean, couldn't he have used a flashlight? And he didn't find anything either...grrrrrrr</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 531881"] My mother's day was nice. PC17 was participating in the Relay for Life at his HS (American cancer society fundraiser) which went from 7pm to 7am - so he basically came home and slept until 2. PC15 slept pretty late too. H got up early, ran to the grocery store and brought home the makings of French Toast & Bacon and a bunch of flowers and a sweet card. He made us both a big breakfast and we read the paper. Then the yard work began. First nice weekend in ages - and our deck needs to be rebuilt. We have out of town guests coming for easy child's HS grad on June 7 - and it needs to be finished by then. So, he started ripping it apart and I sprayed the yard weeds. We capped it off with an hour long trip to Home Depot at 4pm and then Chinese food (my choice, didn't want to go out). PC15 made me a lovely card and wrote the sentiment inside. It touched me so deeply, that I have to share. [I]"Happy Mother's Day. Thank you for doing all the things you have done for me through these past 15 years. Thank you for taking me to sporting events/practice, school, appointments, friend's houses, you name it. Thank you for looking out for me in life and making sure I am always okay and happy. Thank you for doing all the things you do in my life that have made it great. You are the best mom anyone could ask for and do not let anyone say that you are not.[/I] Of course, we all know who "anyone" is (difficult child) and that made me wince a bit. I LOVE the card but I also realize he is trying to make up for the pain his brother has caused and difficult child's disdain of all we did and I feel bad about that. Like a bit of innocence lost I guess. I am not dwelling on it, but I know you guys understand. And I guess as a "youngest child with a difficult child sibling", I am especially sensitive to it. I remember feeling the need to fill the gap (which my own mother stoked) and I hate that my sweet, sensitive youngest must be feeling that way too despite my efforts to shelter him. difficult child sent a Mother's day card. Not a gushy or OTT card- "Thinking of you on Mother's Day and sending love your way" in which he wrote [I]I hope you have a great mother's day and I look forward to seeing you soon. Love you , difficult child [/I]It came earlier in the week, so I had a bit of relief knowing he was acknowledging it, and I opened it yesterday. So that was nice. I also received a gushy , OTT "Thank you note" from his girlfriend to whom I had sent a birthday card earlier in the week. (A very simple birthday card, signed "Love, the XXXXXXs" ) Still can't figure out what is going on there ( a thank you note for a b-day card?), but it is what it is. I didn't hear from difficult child though and I texted him a "thank you for the lovely card, goodnight" at 10:00pm and he didn't text back. 1 step forward, 1/2 step back. I got a grumbled "Happy Mother's Day" from my cranky 17 yo at around 2pm. (I think I've mentioned before that he's a little quirky and an intensely private old soul. He was born a grumpy old man! It works for him - so we let him be.) We ate dinner, no card, no present, nothing. At 8pm, I put on my pjs and when I came out of my room, there was a card on the kitchen counter with "Mom" written on it. I opened a lovely card with an Amazon gc from PC17. (and no he hadn't just run out to get it-so I don't know why?) So, I thanked him profusely and he SMILED at me. So, it was a good day. Except that my nose still hurts and it's healing ugly and I will likely need plastic surgery to fix it. To add insult to injury, Blue Cross sent me a[I] notification of processed (ie unpaid) claim[/I] and apparently when the ENT used to scope to examine my nose, the code is considered "surgery" and is not a covered office service so it is subject to my deductible. $687 to look up my nose with a light. YAY. Hopefully, the plastic surgery will be covered as medically necessary and I guess I would have needed to meet my deductible regardless. But STILL. I mean, couldn't he have used a flashlight? And he didn't find anything either...grrrrrrr [/QUOTE]
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