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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 516692" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I tend to agree with IC. If her medical is covered (so it won't kill you in the wallet) why not take her to the neurologist as well as get her a full physical? It certainly won't hurt anything, and you can use it to remind her that there is no reason for her not to be able to do what everyone else can do, should there be nothing wrong. </p><p></p><p>Nichole told me a couple of years ago when she still lived at home that she'd happily live with me forever. She was just stating a fact. We get along great, we're close, we have the same interests. She did well at home helping out ect. But man oh man did that get my attention!! I set her move out date the next day. I gave her about 4 months. I will say it hurt her feelings, because she thought I just didn't want her and Aubrey here anymore. I had to keep explaining to her that while I did want an empty nest someday, that wasn't the real reason. Her comment was like a huge neon red sign in my face that she had NO desire to enter the adult world as long as I allowed her to remain at home. I told her she already handled her and Aubrey's affairs well, and the next logical step was her own place and living independently, that I firmly believed she was ready and would do an amazing job. Now she did everything for herself and Aubrey, don't get me wrong, but she had no desire to take that leap out of the nest. So I pushed her out. Several months after she'd been in her own place she thanked me. And she confessed to having been both hurt and angry over it, but once she was out.....she figured out what I meant. </p><p></p><p>I have lived in big cities, but nothing like NYC. So I have no clue how to help with the housing or transport issues. Unless she could find a place somewhat close to home where she could pay you or her dad for rides to work and ride along to the store ect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 516692, member: 84"] I tend to agree with IC. If her medical is covered (so it won't kill you in the wallet) why not take her to the neurologist as well as get her a full physical? It certainly won't hurt anything, and you can use it to remind her that there is no reason for her not to be able to do what everyone else can do, should there be nothing wrong. Nichole told me a couple of years ago when she still lived at home that she'd happily live with me forever. She was just stating a fact. We get along great, we're close, we have the same interests. She did well at home helping out ect. But man oh man did that get my attention!! I set her move out date the next day. I gave her about 4 months. I will say it hurt her feelings, because she thought I just didn't want her and Aubrey here anymore. I had to keep explaining to her that while I did want an empty nest someday, that wasn't the real reason. Her comment was like a huge neon red sign in my face that she had NO desire to enter the adult world as long as I allowed her to remain at home. I told her she already handled her and Aubrey's affairs well, and the next logical step was her own place and living independently, that I firmly believed she was ready and would do an amazing job. Now she did everything for herself and Aubrey, don't get me wrong, but she had no desire to take that leap out of the nest. So I pushed her out. Several months after she'd been in her own place she thanked me. And she confessed to having been both hurt and angry over it, but once she was out.....she figured out what I meant. I have lived in big cities, but nothing like NYC. So I have no clue how to help with the housing or transport issues. Unless she could find a place somewhat close to home where she could pay you or her dad for rides to work and ride along to the store ect. [/QUOTE]
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