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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 551625" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Jules--</p><p></p><p>You can tell your difficult child that quite frankly, I agree with him. Stories like that ARE upsetting...especially so for extra-sensitive kids. Stories like that should not, in my humble opinion, be read to sensitive children.</p><p></p><p>Do you remember why that particular story was read to a group of pre-schoolers? Had a child in the community recently died? If so, I can understand that the teachers thought the story might bring comfort to kids who didn't really grasp the concept of death and might have taken comfort in the thought that the child who died had simply gone to sleep and woke up in a wonderful place.</p><p></p><p>I'm thinking that the "heaven", as described in the story, does not mesh with difficult child's sense of what is right. My advice would be to talk about the child in the story - and remind difficult child that it *is* just a story. The writer made up the child and the hospital and used his imagination to describe heaven. The writer has never been to heaven, and has no better idea of what happens when we die than anyone else. Maybe it is different for everybody? Maybe you get to decide how to spend your afterlife - do you want to hang out in heaven? or do you want to haunt a house? or be reborn as a cat? or come back as something huge and powerful like a comet?</p><p></p><p>I think that inviting difficult child to question the story's "facts" is the way to go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 551625, member: 6546"] Jules-- You can tell your difficult child that quite frankly, I agree with him. Stories like that ARE upsetting...especially so for extra-sensitive kids. Stories like that should not, in my humble opinion, be read to sensitive children. Do you remember why that particular story was read to a group of pre-schoolers? Had a child in the community recently died? If so, I can understand that the teachers thought the story might bring comfort to kids who didn't really grasp the concept of death and might have taken comfort in the thought that the child who died had simply gone to sleep and woke up in a wonderful place. I'm thinking that the "heaven", as described in the story, does not mesh with difficult child's sense of what is right. My advice would be to talk about the child in the story - and remind difficult child that it *is* just a story. The writer made up the child and the hospital and used his imagination to describe heaven. The writer has never been to heaven, and has no better idea of what happens when we die than anyone else. Maybe it is different for everybody? Maybe you get to decide how to spend your afterlife - do you want to hang out in heaven? or do you want to haunt a house? or be reborn as a cat? or come back as something huge and powerful like a comet? I think that inviting difficult child to question the story's "facts" is the way to go. [/QUOTE]
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