Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child feeling lonely, hopeless and sad
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 562074" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I certainly do hope he finds real friends sooner or later. Of course his lifestyle makes it difficult, he and others he shares most of his time with tend to have quite a nomadic lifestyle. Of course some stay put in same place for long time (difficult child has a team mate who is local boy and has been playing for the team over ten years now), but most move often and also often share their time between different places. Family may stay put in one city and a player go on and play in different cities and countries and just visit home when possible. In that lifestyle you should be able to make friends quickly and also keep long-distance friendships, both very difficult for difficult child.</p><p></p><p>But again, difficult child is a lucky one. He does has a support system not even money can buy during this time when he tries to grow independent and establish himself as an adult. His team management/coaches have been great with him and his older team mates really try to help him. If he would be a college freshman trying to find his ways first time out of home (like many of his classmates), he would have to do with much less support and I would really have to worry if he would make do or if he would totally seclude himself.</p><p></p><p>But still, I almost cried when I looked at his social media outputs yesterday. He is trying so hard. In his more public social media he had an upbeat message and even in his more private social media he was making it clear he is soldering on. He has been taught how counter-productive wallowing in self pity is and how important it is to keep positive outlook even when struggling, and he certainly tries. Tries so hard to do it right and is still totally miserable. I just hate this. It is easier to see him hurt when he is doing it for himself. But doing everything in best of his ability and still everything going wrong is heartbreaking to watch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 562074, member: 14557"] I certainly do hope he finds real friends sooner or later. Of course his lifestyle makes it difficult, he and others he shares most of his time with tend to have quite a nomadic lifestyle. Of course some stay put in same place for long time (difficult child has a team mate who is local boy and has been playing for the team over ten years now), but most move often and also often share their time between different places. Family may stay put in one city and a player go on and play in different cities and countries and just visit home when possible. In that lifestyle you should be able to make friends quickly and also keep long-distance friendships, both very difficult for difficult child. But again, difficult child is a lucky one. He does has a support system not even money can buy during this time when he tries to grow independent and establish himself as an adult. His team management/coaches have been great with him and his older team mates really try to help him. If he would be a college freshman trying to find his ways first time out of home (like many of his classmates), he would have to do with much less support and I would really have to worry if he would make do or if he would totally seclude himself. But still, I almost cried when I looked at his social media outputs yesterday. He is trying so hard. In his more public social media he had an upbeat message and even in his more private social media he was making it clear he is soldering on. He has been taught how counter-productive wallowing in self pity is and how important it is to keep positive outlook even when struggling, and he certainly tries. Tries so hard to do it right and is still totally miserable. I just hate this. It is easier to see him hurt when he is doing it for himself. But doing everything in best of his ability and still everything going wrong is heartbreaking to watch. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child feeling lonely, hopeless and sad
Top