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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 221254" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Thanks ladies,</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">EW, she really can't go to her dad's house on LI as he hasn't been working for a few months - just some small jobs here and there and to be honest, I don't think he would want her there. He just doesn't know how to parent and had a very hard time laying down the rules. And when he did, he didn't follow through. For most of my daughters' lives, time spent with thier dad was more like a vacation thing, not real life - they have a very difficult time figuring out how to interact and behave with one another on any other basis. I just don't think geographical changes will make any impact, in fact, I believe it would only provide a tiny bit of mental and emotional relief for me than make any changes in anything exh or difficult child does. However, because she is unemployed she can go a visit him after the holidays while I'm on vacation (just staying home) and that would provide a nice break for me. Haha.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Suz, yes, I plan on leaving her a daily list of chores to do in place of her paying rent. The thing is that she's not that responsive after about a week of that, so I will have to spell it out very clearly to her. Thanks for mentioning that. I am often at a loss for thoughts and words when I get thrown like this. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">difficult child wasn't home when I told H and yes, he went through the roof - I just sat and listened and agreed. His intention was to have difficult child and easy child beging paying their own car insurance beginning in January anyway and we're going to have a family meeting to discuss this on the weekend, Saturday. I told him that I really don't want to use the insurance thing as a punishment with difficult child - I feel we're beyond punishments. The key reason he's giving up paying for their insurance is that we feel he's fulfilled his self imposed obligation to pay for their insurance until they were completed with school. easy child graduated in last July and we wanted to give her some time to find her footing, which she has, and difficult child completes her program in January. H said a few other things, which although I realize it's all semantics, I hate the way he phrases things. But I am past the point of worrying about how difficult child perceives things anymore - no matter how careful we are in how we say things to her, she will skew it to suit her perspectives (and attitude).</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">easy child is having her wisdoms pulled today so I will be pretty busy. I left a note for difficult child to get out and start pounding the pavement. She has no more references left - not even the one last really good one because it turns out he was the head guy over at this most recent job. He is probably going to learn today that difficult child was fired yesterday. And difficult child said that the manager told her she has to finish out the week by working on this Saturday. Isn't that odd? I thought when you were fired, you were done. And why would they make her leave yesterday and then want her to come in Sat? Odd. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">I saw on an IM last night that she's planning on meeting Monkeyboy for coffee today so I know that while I was getting ready she was fake sleeping until I left. Whatever. I have other things to think about right now and I think difficult child has taken up her fair share of my thoughts, Know what I mean??</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 221254, member: 2211"] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Thanks ladies,[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]EW, she really can't go to her dad's house on LI as he hasn't been working for a few months - just some small jobs here and there and to be honest, I don't think he would want her there. He just doesn't know how to parent and had a very hard time laying down the rules. And when he did, he didn't follow through. For most of my daughters' lives, time spent with thier dad was more like a vacation thing, not real life - they have a very difficult time figuring out how to interact and behave with one another on any other basis. I just don't think geographical changes will make any impact, in fact, I believe it would only provide a tiny bit of mental and emotional relief for me than make any changes in anything exh or difficult child does. However, because she is unemployed she can go a visit him after the holidays while I'm on vacation (just staying home) and that would provide a nice break for me. Haha.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Suz, yes, I plan on leaving her a daily list of chores to do in place of her paying rent. The thing is that she's not that responsive after about a week of that, so I will have to spell it out very clearly to her. Thanks for mentioning that. I am often at a loss for thoughts and words when I get thrown like this. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]difficult child wasn't home when I told H and yes, he went through the roof - I just sat and listened and agreed. His intention was to have difficult child and easy child beging paying their own car insurance beginning in January anyway and we're going to have a family meeting to discuss this on the weekend, Saturday. I told him that I really don't want to use the insurance thing as a punishment with difficult child - I feel we're beyond punishments. The key reason he's giving up paying for their insurance is that we feel he's fulfilled his self imposed obligation to pay for their insurance until they were completed with school. easy child graduated in last July and we wanted to give her some time to find her footing, which she has, and difficult child completes her program in January. H said a few other things, which although I realize it's all semantics, I hate the way he phrases things. But I am past the point of worrying about how difficult child perceives things anymore - no matter how careful we are in how we say things to her, she will skew it to suit her perspectives (and attitude).[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]easy child is having her wisdoms pulled today so I will be pretty busy. I left a note for difficult child to get out and start pounding the pavement. She has no more references left - not even the one last really good one because it turns out he was the head guy over at this most recent job. He is probably going to learn today that difficult child was fired yesterday. And difficult child said that the manager told her she has to finish out the week by working on this Saturday. Isn't that odd? I thought when you were fired, you were done. And why would they make her leave yesterday and then want her to come in Sat? Odd. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]I saw on an IM last night that she's planning on meeting Monkeyboy for coffee today so I know that while I was getting ready she was fake sleeping until I left. Whatever. I have other things to think about right now and I think difficult child has taken up her fair share of my thoughts, Know what I mean??[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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