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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 197244" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Sorry, but I would have been calling the police 30 seconds after he knocked the chair over (or at least as soon as I could safely get up to do so). The cane wouldn't have even been a factor. </p><p> </p><p>For some kids, they manipulate through tears. It sounds like your son manipulates through violence. He knew he was wrong in leaving the porch. He came back and tried to put you on the defensive by repeatedly asking why you were angry. When that didn't work, he escalated. He needs to learn that violence is never acceptable and will be dealt with appropriately. Sadly, "appropriately" is calling the police. </p><p> </p><p>If you think the violence stems from medication issues, then I'd insist he be taken to the ER. Otherwise, I'd have the police handle it as they deemed appropriate. I found that meeting with lieutenant, captain or chief and explaining my daughter's behavior and situation helped a lot. That way, when I called the police for help, I could drop a name about how things should be handled. It really helped.</p><p> </p><p>Stop the world is a great concept for a mouthy, rude, obnoxious teen. Your son is well beyond that. He is violent and dangerous. You're fearful of your life. He needs help. So do you. Yes, he's on probation but it cannot be factored into this situation, at least not by you. You need to let him know that the next time he becomes violent you will call the police and then do so if he does.</p><p> </p><p>My daughter was violent. I foolishly made excuses for her. When she broke my arm and two ribs, the excuses went out the window and she spent the weekend in juvie. That was when I seriously began looking for an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for her (and it took me 2 more years to get her into one -- I kept making excuses). </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you're going through this. No person should be afraid of someone they love. No person has the right to put that kind of fear in another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 197244, member: 3626"] Sorry, but I would have been calling the police 30 seconds after he knocked the chair over (or at least as soon as I could safely get up to do so). The cane wouldn't have even been a factor. For some kids, they manipulate through tears. It sounds like your son manipulates through violence. He knew he was wrong in leaving the porch. He came back and tried to put you on the defensive by repeatedly asking why you were angry. When that didn't work, he escalated. He needs to learn that violence is never acceptable and will be dealt with appropriately. Sadly, "appropriately" is calling the police. If you think the violence stems from medication issues, then I'd insist he be taken to the ER. Otherwise, I'd have the police handle it as they deemed appropriate. I found that meeting with lieutenant, captain or chief and explaining my daughter's behavior and situation helped a lot. That way, when I called the police for help, I could drop a name about how things should be handled. It really helped. Stop the world is a great concept for a mouthy, rude, obnoxious teen. Your son is well beyond that. He is violent and dangerous. You're fearful of your life. He needs help. So do you. Yes, he's on probation but it cannot be factored into this situation, at least not by you. You need to let him know that the next time he becomes violent you will call the police and then do so if he does. My daughter was violent. I foolishly made excuses for her. When she broke my arm and two ribs, the excuses went out the window and she spent the weekend in juvie. That was when I seriously began looking for an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for her (and it took me 2 more years to get her into one -- I kept making excuses). I'm sorry you're going through this. No person should be afraid of someone they love. No person has the right to put that kind of fear in another. [/QUOTE]
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