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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 170738" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Honestly, I think he will (embarassed or not) laugh and say "that's what guys do" when I bring it up. He may surprise me and not do it, but that's my guess. </p><p></p><p>His social skills have always been below where they should be. Always. If someone new comes to the house, he's right there telling them his life story and showing every single thing in his room. Once he was with us for a few years, I really started wondering if there wasn't more going on than what we had been told from the docs. I've tried for years to have more testing done, brought up things I'd noticed, etc. Nothing happened. Personally, I think he's on the spectrum somewhere. High functioning but there nonetheless. </p><p></p><p>With his age now though (18) and his complete unwillingness to do anything to help himself, I don't know what husband and I would be able to accomplish. Yes, we could probably fairly easily take him to court and get guardianship. Would it help? No. Even if we did that and, for example, got him into a group home....he wouldn't cooperate. Or if he did, it would be for show because he is the master of saying all the right things. That is assuming that we would be able to get him to step one foot into a group home, much less live there. (or wherever...just an example)</p><p></p><p>Other things are off too. You know how typical teen's get all upset and "whatEVER" when you ask them to do something they don't want to do? He's like that literaly ALL THE TIME. I can't even explain something to him (why he can't do something or why he should be doing this or that) without getting that almost as soon as I open my mouth. It's typical teen to the nth power. It's his way or he does nothing. Period and there's no talking to him. (Even something like, he needs to take the trash out on a different day than normal because of a holiday. You would no sooner say "the trash needs taken out tonight be....." and he's off. )</p><p></p><p>I can't stand to live with him anymore but until we get some sort of insurance in place for him to be out, he can't leave. There's no way he would be able to stay on his medications otherwise as they are $1000/month without insurance. But....he's not so bad that I can convince others there's something else there, and not so good that he can (or will) be able to live completely independently.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 170738, member: 2459"] Honestly, I think he will (embarassed or not) laugh and say "that's what guys do" when I bring it up. He may surprise me and not do it, but that's my guess. His social skills have always been below where they should be. Always. If someone new comes to the house, he's right there telling them his life story and showing every single thing in his room. Once he was with us for a few years, I really started wondering if there wasn't more going on than what we had been told from the docs. I've tried for years to have more testing done, brought up things I'd noticed, etc. Nothing happened. Personally, I think he's on the spectrum somewhere. High functioning but there nonetheless. With his age now though (18) and his complete unwillingness to do anything to help himself, I don't know what husband and I would be able to accomplish. Yes, we could probably fairly easily take him to court and get guardianship. Would it help? No. Even if we did that and, for example, got him into a group home....he wouldn't cooperate. Or if he did, it would be for show because he is the master of saying all the right things. That is assuming that we would be able to get him to step one foot into a group home, much less live there. (or wherever...just an example) Other things are off too. You know how typical teen's get all upset and "whatEVER" when you ask them to do something they don't want to do? He's like that literaly ALL THE TIME. I can't even explain something to him (why he can't do something or why he should be doing this or that) without getting that almost as soon as I open my mouth. It's typical teen to the nth power. It's his way or he does nothing. Period and there's no talking to him. (Even something like, he needs to take the trash out on a different day than normal because of a holiday. You would no sooner say "the trash needs taken out tonight be....." and he's off. ) I can't stand to live with him anymore but until we get some sort of insurance in place for him to be out, he can't leave. There's no way he would be able to stay on his medications otherwise as they are $1000/month without insurance. But....he's not so bad that I can convince others there's something else there, and not so good that he can (or will) be able to live completely independently. [/QUOTE]
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