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difficult child has now sold (ebay) all the gifts he received from us last year...
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 487873" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I stopped giving Oldest sentimental gifts a few years ago. It hurt too much to watch her lose them, leave them behind at various places she lived, or in some cases stolen or destroyed by roommates who got ticked off at her. It makes gift-choosing more difficult, to be sure. </p><p></p><p>Then earlier this year, Youngest left 99% of her possessions behind in Florida when things with her boyfriend fell apart. Family heirlooms and keepsakes that will never been seen again. Her confirmation bible, an antique youth chair that was sat in by 4 generations of children in our family, a ring that belonged to my grandmother, a recipe book full of family recipes, her children's baby books and keepsakes, countless other things. I still can't think about it too much, or I cry. And I'm ticked off at myself for letting her have some of those things, being foolish enough to think she would keep them safe. Of course, she cries, too, and is devastated, but I saw it coming a mile away, which makes it all the more painful for me. So, I'm now hesitant to give her or my grandkids anything that could be considered a "keepsake" or have any sentimental value down the road. And that makes me incredibly sad. Now I'm just giving "stuff." </p><p></p><p>So, I know how painful it is to see gifts you chose for him so thoughtfully, listed on eBay. And I understand the dilemma you're in this year. I guess I'd be thinking whether my giving him a laptop was somehow going to contribute to his pot issues and possible addiction, if he's going to turn around and sell it. I'd be wondering if it's worth it, or if I'm just throwing money away. But I'm pretty jaded when it comes to that stuff, and you have to do what you can live with. All I can say is, trust your gut.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 487873, member: 1157"] I stopped giving Oldest sentimental gifts a few years ago. It hurt too much to watch her lose them, leave them behind at various places she lived, or in some cases stolen or destroyed by roommates who got ticked off at her. It makes gift-choosing more difficult, to be sure. Then earlier this year, Youngest left 99% of her possessions behind in Florida when things with her boyfriend fell apart. Family heirlooms and keepsakes that will never been seen again. Her confirmation bible, an antique youth chair that was sat in by 4 generations of children in our family, a ring that belonged to my grandmother, a recipe book full of family recipes, her children's baby books and keepsakes, countless other things. I still can't think about it too much, or I cry. And I'm ticked off at myself for letting her have some of those things, being foolish enough to think she would keep them safe. Of course, she cries, too, and is devastated, but I saw it coming a mile away, which makes it all the more painful for me. So, I'm now hesitant to give her or my grandkids anything that could be considered a "keepsake" or have any sentimental value down the road. And that makes me incredibly sad. Now I'm just giving "stuff." So, I know how painful it is to see gifts you chose for him so thoughtfully, listed on eBay. And I understand the dilemma you're in this year. I guess I'd be thinking whether my giving him a laptop was somehow going to contribute to his pot issues and possible addiction, if he's going to turn around and sell it. I'd be wondering if it's worth it, or if I'm just throwing money away. But I'm pretty jaded when it comes to that stuff, and you have to do what you can live with. All I can say is, trust your gut. [/QUOTE]
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