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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629265" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>What a WONDERFUL message to wake up to!!!! </p><p></p><p>We were also told that if we were serious and stopped giving in to our daughter, when she was in the hey day of her scary drug days, she would have a much better chance of changing and that our bailing her out of trouble was holding her back. Although my daughter managed to dodge jail, she was on parole twice and the police were always a-callin' at our house to ask her questions about something or another. It played with my nerves and my two very little ones would get hysterical. They even had a police dog come inside once to sniff her room.</p><p></p><p>We finally made her leave. She called her brother, who can be a total a*****e, but is very straight and uber-religious and he allowed her to go live in his basement under a stricter set of rules we ever gave her, including working, rent, cleaning, cooking, and not even one cigarette in the house or she was out. She took the deal and things turned around quickly for her. She knew he wasn't kidding. She felt that we would soften up and relent, eventually feeling sorry for her.</p><p></p><p>Today she doesn't even smoke cigarettes. She is almost nine months pregnant, has her own house and lives with her SO of eleven years. She is very responsible.</p><p></p><p>I think you did a great job. It's not easy to let go. You set your son free too and now he can do what he needs to do to grow up. It appears he is taking big steps toward that. I have never understood how some people allow their 30-50 year old adult children to live at home, swear at them, steal from them, take drugs in their homes, etc. Obviously, it does not help their adult children and they totally give up their own lives and often other loved ones who treat them well. </p><p></p><p>Big kudos to you and to your son too. I hope he stays on track!!!!</p><p></p><p>I am a sucker for a good story <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629265, member: 1550"] What a WONDERFUL message to wake up to!!!! We were also told that if we were serious and stopped giving in to our daughter, when she was in the hey day of her scary drug days, she would have a much better chance of changing and that our bailing her out of trouble was holding her back. Although my daughter managed to dodge jail, she was on parole twice and the police were always a-callin' at our house to ask her questions about something or another. It played with my nerves and my two very little ones would get hysterical. They even had a police dog come inside once to sniff her room. We finally made her leave. She called her brother, who can be a total a*****e, but is very straight and uber-religious and he allowed her to go live in his basement under a stricter set of rules we ever gave her, including working, rent, cleaning, cooking, and not even one cigarette in the house or she was out. She took the deal and things turned around quickly for her. She knew he wasn't kidding. She felt that we would soften up and relent, eventually feeling sorry for her. Today she doesn't even smoke cigarettes. She is almost nine months pregnant, has her own house and lives with her SO of eleven years. She is very responsible. I think you did a great job. It's not easy to let go. You set your son free too and now he can do what he needs to do to grow up. It appears he is taking big steps toward that. I have never understood how some people allow their 30-50 year old adult children to live at home, swear at them, steal from them, take drugs in their homes, etc. Obviously, it does not help their adult children and they totally give up their own lives and often other loved ones who treat them well. Big kudos to you and to your son too. I hope he stays on track!!!! I am a sucker for a good story :) [/QUOTE]
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