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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629491" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think it was very much the right thing to do. With our difficult children, especially with those with a history of drug use, we can never know for sure what is and what isn't true until they are 100% clean. It was almost a year after my daughter quit before I believed she wouldn't backslide.</p><p></p><p>One big sign of quitting drugs is that the person usually is no longer associating with drug users. My daughter spent many lonely, lonely months with nobody. She was living with her brother, in his basement, and he is stricter than us and could be a real a*** and is not forgiving. So she walked to and from work, like he told her to, and came home and didn't have much to do or any friends. She finally met her SO at work and that helped her a lot in the companionship department, but it can be lonely at first. It is the same for an alcoholic. Your buddies all go out to drink after work. What do you do? Suddenly you have to change your entire lifestyle. It isn't easy. If he does THAT, trust me, he is telling you the truth. If he is still hanging out with the same losers he always did, I would think they'd pressure him into keeping up with the drugs. And our difficult children don't exactly have a strong will and the ability to buck the crowd.</p><p></p><p>I am wishing that your difficult child is telling you the truth and that the nightmare for you and for him is over. Hugs and prayers (prayers of your choice) in your direction.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629491, member: 1550"] I think it was very much the right thing to do. With our difficult children, especially with those with a history of drug use, we can never know for sure what is and what isn't true until they are 100% clean. It was almost a year after my daughter quit before I believed she wouldn't backslide. One big sign of quitting drugs is that the person usually is no longer associating with drug users. My daughter spent many lonely, lonely months with nobody. She was living with her brother, in his basement, and he is stricter than us and could be a real a*** and is not forgiving. So she walked to and from work, like he told her to, and came home and didn't have much to do or any friends. She finally met her SO at work and that helped her a lot in the companionship department, but it can be lonely at first. It is the same for an alcoholic. Your buddies all go out to drink after work. What do you do? Suddenly you have to change your entire lifestyle. It isn't easy. If he does THAT, trust me, he is telling you the truth. If he is still hanging out with the same losers he always did, I would think they'd pressure him into keeping up with the drugs. And our difficult children don't exactly have a strong will and the ability to buck the crowd. I am wishing that your difficult child is telling you the truth and that the nightmare for you and for him is over. Hugs and prayers (prayers of your choice) in your direction. [/QUOTE]
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