Hi Terry. I don't know how I missed your post! I am so sorry that you are going through all of this again. I think you are right . . . our difficult child's are almost one and the same.
I'm glad that you can be at peace with this. I am getting there. It helps that I have broken all contact with my difficult child. They said in treatment that an addict either gets clean or one of three things happen . . . they end up institutionalized, in jail, or dead.
So very sad.
~Kathy