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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 565202" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I, too, remember the relief of knowing where they are, even if it's detention/jail. It's a convoluted emotion that only a difficult child's parent would understand, that's for sure.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult children are their own worst enemy sometimes. But it's never their fault. I'm kind of a hard line "tough love" cookie, and after all the calls you made last time, only to have him throw it all away, I'm not sure I'd spend much more energy on it this time around. Maybe place a call to your contact at the shelter where he was, to see what they can offer. Wasn't there a chaplain or someone you spoke to? That might be a start. My stance tends to be the one my therapist put in my head years ago: "don't work harder than they do." So often I would make calls and put things in place, only to have one of my difficult children ignore them and do what they wanted anyway -- my "work" was wasted effort. But as always, you have to do what works for you, and what you can live with.</p><p></p><p>If your stress is causing you physical symptoms (been there done that), it might be worth a visit to your family physician to talk to them about it ... since it may take awhile to see a psychiatrist. </p><p></p><p>Hugs. I know this rollercoaster hoovers... take care of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 565202, member: 1157"] I, too, remember the relief of knowing where they are, even if it's detention/jail. It's a convoluted emotion that only a difficult child's parent would understand, that's for sure. Our difficult children are their own worst enemy sometimes. But it's never their fault. I'm kind of a hard line "tough love" cookie, and after all the calls you made last time, only to have him throw it all away, I'm not sure I'd spend much more energy on it this time around. Maybe place a call to your contact at the shelter where he was, to see what they can offer. Wasn't there a chaplain or someone you spoke to? That might be a start. My stance tends to be the one my therapist put in my head years ago: "don't work harder than they do." So often I would make calls and put things in place, only to have one of my difficult children ignore them and do what they wanted anyway -- my "work" was wasted effort. But as always, you have to do what works for you, and what you can live with. If your stress is causing you physical symptoms (been there done that), it might be worth a visit to your family physician to talk to them about it ... since it may take awhile to see a psychiatrist. Hugs. I know this rollercoaster hoovers... take care of you. [/QUOTE]
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