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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 676470" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You're not weak. He's your child. We do tend to see our children, when they are unhappy, as little kids. It's important to remember that they are not and that, unless they are disabled in which case they can apply for and receive disability, they can and should work. We are being good parents if we withdraw most of our "help" which doesn't really help them at all but continues to keep them feeling dependent. Trust me, they are resourceful and there are places to eat, wash up, and get warm even if they are homeless. But they have to follow the rules, just as they should in our homes. Drug use is dangerous on many levels...their "friends" could be dangerous to us or to our other children if drug addicted adult children tick them off or owe them money. Make no mistake about that. If a drug using child lives with you, you are a possible target as is anyone also living there.</p><p></p><p>I wish you good luck in finding the strength. Your boys will choose what to do with their lives as you chose what to do with yours. You may not like their choices. THEY may not like their choices. But you can't control them. They have to do it.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 676470, member: 1550"] You're not weak. He's your child. We do tend to see our children, when they are unhappy, as little kids. It's important to remember that they are not and that, unless they are disabled in which case they can apply for and receive disability, they can and should work. We are being good parents if we withdraw most of our "help" which doesn't really help them at all but continues to keep them feeling dependent. Trust me, they are resourceful and there are places to eat, wash up, and get warm even if they are homeless. But they have to follow the rules, just as they should in our homes. Drug use is dangerous on many levels...their "friends" could be dangerous to us or to our other children if drug addicted adult children tick them off or owe them money. Make no mistake about that. If a drug using child lives with you, you are a possible target as is anyone also living there. I wish you good luck in finding the strength. Your boys will choose what to do with their lives as you chose what to do with yours. You may not like their choices. THEY may not like their choices. But you can't control them. They have to do it. Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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