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difficult child is hitting me. How do I get help?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 135947" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Christy,</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.</p><p> </p><p>Restraints became near-impossible around 9. In fact, thank you's therapist told me that I shouldn't do it alone anymore at that point due to safety issues - mine and thank you's. He recommended calling 911 - I laughed - we were already having to call them probably every other month. We did have an encounter with DCFS after a restraint- thank you got a rug burn from his successful efforts to kick out the cold air return. The investigation worked out okay for us, but it definitely is a realistic concern.</p><p> </p><p>I would call 911 for assistance and transport. You need to not worry about putting on a show for the neighbors - you need to make sure everyone is safe. Hindsight being 20/20, I wish I had gotten a cell phone many years before I did - we did the hitting/kicking/throwing things while I was driving. I guess the good news is I can laugh about it now, especially the time he grabbed my glasses and turned them into a modern art sculpture. I actually had to stop the van, schlep to a total stranger's house and have them call 911 that time. But really, it was a dangerous situation to be driving with a raging thank you. </p><p> </p><p>While it would be great to find *the* right medication combo that would address the violence, my experience is that it can be very elusive. In the meantime, you have to think in terms of safety. Some areas have crisis teams that can come out to the house in an emergency. We don't, which is why thank you has 20+ admissions to date. You need to talk to psychiatrist and therapist about a concrete safety plan and what to do when difficult child is raging. </p><p> </p><p>I would also recommend doing away with anything in your home that can cause damage/injury. I know that sounds nuts, but for years my criteria when purchasing stuff was "will it put a hole in the wall and how much will it hurt when I get hit with it?". </p><p> </p><p>I hear you about living with the violence, truly. I had more than my share of discussions with police and ER staff over it. In no other situation is the victim expected to take the abuser home and tuck him into bed. It's a little bizarre. on the other hand, it certainly does make us redouble our efforts to find appropriate treatments. </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 135947, member: 8"] Christy, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Restraints became near-impossible around 9. In fact, thank you's therapist told me that I shouldn't do it alone anymore at that point due to safety issues - mine and thank you's. He recommended calling 911 - I laughed - we were already having to call them probably every other month. We did have an encounter with DCFS after a restraint- thank you got a rug burn from his successful efforts to kick out the cold air return. The investigation worked out okay for us, but it definitely is a realistic concern. I would call 911 for assistance and transport. You need to not worry about putting on a show for the neighbors - you need to make sure everyone is safe. Hindsight being 20/20, I wish I had gotten a cell phone many years before I did - we did the hitting/kicking/throwing things while I was driving. I guess the good news is I can laugh about it now, especially the time he grabbed my glasses and turned them into a modern art sculpture. I actually had to stop the van, schlep to a total stranger's house and have them call 911 that time. But really, it was a dangerous situation to be driving with a raging thank you. While it would be great to find *the* right medication combo that would address the violence, my experience is that it can be very elusive. In the meantime, you have to think in terms of safety. Some areas have crisis teams that can come out to the house in an emergency. We don't, which is why thank you has 20+ admissions to date. You need to talk to psychiatrist and therapist about a concrete safety plan and what to do when difficult child is raging. I would also recommend doing away with anything in your home that can cause damage/injury. I know that sounds nuts, but for years my criteria when purchasing stuff was "will it put a hole in the wall and how much will it hurt when I get hit with it?". I hear you about living with the violence, truly. I had more than my share of discussions with police and ER staff over it. In no other situation is the victim expected to take the abuser home and tuck him into bed. It's a little bizarre. on the other hand, it certainly does make us redouble our efforts to find appropriate treatments. Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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