Oh Kathy I am thinking about you. Our difficult children seem so similar and you know I have been through much of the same thing and same choices.
I have been thinking about the whole concept of tough love lately. To me it is really about supporting your child in doing the next right thing and not supporting them to do the next wrong thing... whatever that means to them. For some rock bottom is death and I think we want to help them avoid that if possible (and sometimes that is not possible).
So I think you did absolutely the right thing. I think it is good that although she took pills she got scared and called for help. That means that at least a part of her wants to live! I think it is good that she jumped at the chance. She sounds ready to do the next right thing at least for the moment.... and it will give you a chance to sleep better at night for awhile which is good too.
I think for our difficult children, with their major emotional issues, it makes a difference for them to know we love them. Sometimes I think the only thing between my difficult child and becoming a hardened criminal is the love of his parents! So paying the rent for a sober house is surely showing your love.... as is not paying for stuff while she is using....
And I think each time at rehab or sober living teaches them something and hopefully gets them a step closer to recovery for the long term.
Hugs,
TL
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