I am happy that she is willingly taking the help, Kathy. You and your husband have certainly been through the ringer! I don't think there is any doubt that you have both gone above and beyond to help her. I agree that you need to do what you can both live with.
They say replapses are part of recovery. Maybe that is because they "forget" the bad times on drugs - they think they can have just one drink, just one hit. Then maybe they have to relapse to remember how bad those bad times were. At least, we hope it makes them remember how bad it is.
I hope that this relapse made her realize she does not really want to live that way...
