Absolutely do NOT sign the withdrawal form. Just because THEY want him in the other program and are paying for it does NOT mean you have to. If they JUST finished the evaluation, they need to come up with services and accommodations to help. Giving him a 1:1 (which PROVED) to help is not trying anything. Trust your mommy gut. If you withdraw him, it will be harder to get him back in. Withdrawing him will also release them from paying any further costs for the other placement. THEY need to PROVE that they CAN'T help him. They can't go from NO help to the Most Restrictive Environment without ANY effort. I, personally, would put him back in the school and call an IEP meeting (you have every right to) to come up with an IEP that YOU approve of.
Get an advocate ASAP. Our SD tried this with difficult child 1 and we got an advocate and we fought tooth and nail for 5 months to get the SD to listen and provide the services difficult child 1 needed. We had to get OUTSIDE evaluations done because theirs was so cursory that it showed NO problems except behavior. An Independent Education Evaluation showed MANY language processing, reading, and sensory issues.
Don't let them make you think they have difficult child's best interests at heart and don't let them off the hook so easily. THEY are just watching the almighty dollar and passing the buck. It is THEIR job to educate him!
{{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to you both!!!
