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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 155951" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>been there done that too many times to count. The only difference is I got "not your servant" comment one time. She lived to regret it. She wanted to go somewhere that wasn't on my way, "Sorry, I'm not your chauffeur." She wanted something from the garage, "Sorry, I'm not your servant." She left something in the living room, I just threw it away, "Sorry, I'm not your maid." She wanted some clothes washed, "Sorry, I'm not your laundress." After a month of sorries, I asked her how she liked being treated like that. She didn't (I wonder why?). She may not have done things simply because I asked but she never again yelled at me or told me she wasn't my servant. (This happened when she was about 9 or 10.)</p><p> </p><p>Now, explain to me please why you would care what she wanted from the store after that little scene? Whatever it was could surely have waited until the next YOU needed to go to the store. I mean, you're not her concierge, are you?</p><p> </p><p>Without trying to sound mean, she walks all over you because you let her. As hard as it is, maybe it is time to quit doing so much for her. Yes, she's going to have bad days where nothing can stop her from saying what she thinks but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it.</p><p> </p><p>And the chore list is a great idea. Remind the kids that they live there, they are part of the household and to get the privileges like using the car to see girlfriend or getting to guitar lessons means doing things at home first. (by the way, it really is pretty common for guys to help out like mowing lawn at someone else's house rather than doing it at home. Ditto girls with dishes, cleaning friends' room, etc. Just the nature of the human.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 155951, member: 3626"] been there done that too many times to count. The only difference is I got "not your servant" comment one time. She lived to regret it. She wanted to go somewhere that wasn't on my way, "Sorry, I'm not your chauffeur." She wanted something from the garage, "Sorry, I'm not your servant." She left something in the living room, I just threw it away, "Sorry, I'm not your maid." She wanted some clothes washed, "Sorry, I'm not your laundress." After a month of sorries, I asked her how she liked being treated like that. She didn't (I wonder why?). She may not have done things simply because I asked but she never again yelled at me or told me she wasn't my servant. (This happened when she was about 9 or 10.) Now, explain to me please why you would care what she wanted from the store after that little scene? Whatever it was could surely have waited until the next YOU needed to go to the store. I mean, you're not her concierge, are you? Without trying to sound mean, she walks all over you because you let her. As hard as it is, maybe it is time to quit doing so much for her. Yes, she's going to have bad days where nothing can stop her from saying what she thinks but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it. And the chore list is a great idea. Remind the kids that they live there, they are part of the household and to get the privileges like using the car to see girlfriend or getting to guitar lessons means doing things at home first. (by the way, it really is pretty common for guys to help out like mowing lawn at someone else's house rather than doing it at home. Ditto girls with dishes, cleaning friends' room, etc. Just the nature of the human.) [/QUOTE]
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