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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 208387" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>You made perfect sense. I can totally appreciate your situation, and your frustration. Also not liking your child, loving them not yet not liking them nor wanting them in your space.</p><p></p><p>I have been a single parent for almost 8 years, yes I now live with boyfriend for over a year yet before that was girls and I. It literally took all hands on deck. THis was mostly myself and my oldest. To infact take care of our dog at the time, help change litter boxes, etc. When she begged me for the pets, she claimed i'll do this and that everything lol typical "kid" move than pet comes into household and boom it's all on us.</p><p></p><p>I talk to my older one and tell her constantly WE ARE A TEAM. In order for this team to function right we all need to pitch and help one another that is waht life is all about helping eachother, respecting eachother, etc. </p><p></p><p>I often have to catch myself as well in regards to doing too much for both of my girls. Yet when I get consistent in my approach and cut off the extra's and explain why whether it be health issue or work issue that i am requiring help at that time whether it be walking a dog or doing dinner dishes, I see her fold eventually and help out. I had a masectomy years ago, it was very difficult it followed my seperation and halfway through my divorce. There was recovery time and kids and I were alone, difficult child was very little than. I required assistance and help of my oldest at the time. </p><p></p><p>It isn't wrong of you on any level to expect assistance from her. They need to learn empathy for other people starting with their mom's i think. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I hope your night is better than last night </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 208387, member: 4514"] You made perfect sense. I can totally appreciate your situation, and your frustration. Also not liking your child, loving them not yet not liking them nor wanting them in your space. I have been a single parent for almost 8 years, yes I now live with boyfriend for over a year yet before that was girls and I. It literally took all hands on deck. THis was mostly myself and my oldest. To infact take care of our dog at the time, help change litter boxes, etc. When she begged me for the pets, she claimed i'll do this and that everything lol typical "kid" move than pet comes into household and boom it's all on us. I talk to my older one and tell her constantly WE ARE A TEAM. In order for this team to function right we all need to pitch and help one another that is waht life is all about helping eachother, respecting eachother, etc. I often have to catch myself as well in regards to doing too much for both of my girls. Yet when I get consistent in my approach and cut off the extra's and explain why whether it be health issue or work issue that i am requiring help at that time whether it be walking a dog or doing dinner dishes, I see her fold eventually and help out. I had a masectomy years ago, it was very difficult it followed my seperation and halfway through my divorce. There was recovery time and kids and I were alone, difficult child was very little than. I required assistance and help of my oldest at the time. It isn't wrong of you on any level to expect assistance from her. They need to learn empathy for other people starting with their mom's i think. :) I hope your night is better than last night (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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