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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 647039" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>37 used to fake illness and stayed home or came home in the middle of the day all the time. I worked so half the time I didn't know that he'd come home. The sad part here is, 37 is so smart that he got into college anyway, although for many reasons, he didn't finish.</p><p></p><p>I was too tired from work and the divorce to fight over it. If he stayed home from school, he did. His grades remained good. It was legal to drop out of school at sixteen back then and he was told that if he did so, he could forget about getting any money from us if he couldn't get a job. One summer he did hard labor for a few weeks, like what he'd have had to do if he'd dropped out. Hehe...he hated it. He does not like to get his hands dirty or work physically. He went to school more often after that and I have to thank his awesome principal for taking an interest in him, seeing his potential, and literally doing more than I could ever have done to keep him in school with a "B" average. Doesn't mean he never stayed home with a "headache" (cough), but his principal did not punish him. He did call him and talk to him and usually 37 went back the next day because principal encouraged him and got him interested in going.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry that nobody is taking that sort of interest in your son. He is surly and defiant, like mine, and doesn't want to go to school, like mine, but if somebody at school acted like he/she cared a dang about him, he may be more motivated to go and stay and graduate. To me, encouragement from school is sooooooooooo much better than condemnation and threats to call the truancy officers. That just makes them think school is ""The Man" (I got that from the 60's!)</p><p></p><p>You may have noticed I like your son. I don't like everything he does, but I still think he has a lot of potential and that he has a very important thing many difficult child's lack...a heart. I hope his heart wins out against the defiance. Whatever happens, Terry, you could not have done a better job with this young man. He would be a LOT worse if not in your wonderful care. I think even after this rough spot he has a great chance of being a wonderful young man. He is very bonded to your family...that is so important in the success or lack of it with especially adopted children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 647039, member: 1550"] 37 used to fake illness and stayed home or came home in the middle of the day all the time. I worked so half the time I didn't know that he'd come home. The sad part here is, 37 is so smart that he got into college anyway, although for many reasons, he didn't finish. I was too tired from work and the divorce to fight over it. If he stayed home from school, he did. His grades remained good. It was legal to drop out of school at sixteen back then and he was told that if he did so, he could forget about getting any money from us if he couldn't get a job. One summer he did hard labor for a few weeks, like what he'd have had to do if he'd dropped out. Hehe...he hated it. He does not like to get his hands dirty or work physically. He went to school more often after that and I have to thank his awesome principal for taking an interest in him, seeing his potential, and literally doing more than I could ever have done to keep him in school with a "B" average. Doesn't mean he never stayed home with a "headache" (cough), but his principal did not punish him. He did call him and talk to him and usually 37 went back the next day because principal encouraged him and got him interested in going. I'm sorry that nobody is taking that sort of interest in your son. He is surly and defiant, like mine, and doesn't want to go to school, like mine, but if somebody at school acted like he/she cared a dang about him, he may be more motivated to go and stay and graduate. To me, encouragement from school is sooooooooooo much better than condemnation and threats to call the truancy officers. That just makes them think school is ""The Man" (I got that from the 60's!) You may have noticed I like your son. I don't like everything he does, but I still think he has a lot of potential and that he has a very important thing many difficult child's lack...a heart. I hope his heart wins out against the defiance. Whatever happens, Terry, you could not have done a better job with this young man. He would be a LOT worse if not in your wonderful care. I think even after this rough spot he has a great chance of being a wonderful young man. He is very bonded to your family...that is so important in the success or lack of it with especially adopted children. [/QUOTE]
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